Life is an experience that we should cherish, rather than the time we have to suffer. Life is the very moment, and it is the first step to approach happiness.

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The Pain in the BMW

One of my friends, who was divorced recently often come to my home and complains about it. This guy is a successful man that nearly everyone envies of. He is an analyst in Walt Street. His annul salary is 30,000＄, and his car is BMW. He and I were schoolmates in college, and we both lived in New Jersey. We are in each other’s confidence now. Come to speak of it, I am ashamed for my annul salary is only 7,000＄.What’s more, I have two children and a wife who doesn’t work. It is out of my consideration to buy a house. I’ve always thought to be no use by some of my schoolmates.  

I’ve been envying this friend. He has great pursuit and his career is so brilliant. While I am only a bumpkin only seek easy and comfort. My whole life is wasted.  

At first, my wife and I intended to help my friend and his wife become reconciled. But I could say nothing when I knew the reason they devoiced, and I begin to have new understanding of life.

He and his wife were schoolmates in college. They had a so good relationship that everyone envied. When came to American, they devoted themselves work and study. Worked two years after graduation, the guy was demitted to Columbia University to study MBA. Letter he worked in Walt Street. At that time, I got a job in a school. My wife just had given birth to a son, which is envied by him so much.

But don’t focus on his bright appearance. He was suffering the pain his marriage brought to him. When they started to work, the wife asked him whether to have a baby or not. He said they had no spirit because there were so many things to do. When doing MBA, he went out early but got back late, so neglected his wife. When she wanted to be intimate with him, only to find he was asleep. She thought they could take a breath when he worked in Walt Street. It was unexpected that things got worse for the pressure of work was even bigger than that of doing MBA.

Two years past, I got a daughter. His salary was nearly three times of mine. But he was divorced. His wife also had pressure for she was not young. If she didn’t have baby it would be late. While he was busy with his work and was too tired when got back, or it was too late. Recently, he found he was impotent. He tried a few times, but he couldn’t. His wife was angry and divorced with him—not for he was important but she thought he did not love her.

Heard his complain, I could say nothing. The marriage that everyone envied was just like this. It was pain in the BMW. He neglected every other thing.

Money is external of body, and never be brought with when he was born and die. It’s a great pity that people earn a lot of money but have no chance to spend them.

I believe he, who earn 300,000＄ a year, prefer to exchange for my life, my wife and my children with all of his money. But why came to understand so late? He is looking for a job that has a lower salary but less pressure. But how can it be easy! There’s hardly any other company wants to hire him with so high pay, except these in Walt Street for similar works. Half of his salary is too high to common companies. He joked that he had went to a no-return road.

The really meaning of life is whether you lived a happy life, whether you treated your family well, rather than how many money you earned when you look back at the time you are dying. What children really care is whether their father plays the free games with them, rather buying them expensive tolls.

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Many years ago, I had a talk with a Sidney friend, whose h wife died not long before. He told me he found a silk muffler when packing her things. That was a beautiful refined muffler, the label still hanging on it. She never worn and prepared it for a particular day.

He stopped, and I did not take over his word. A few moment later, he said, “Never reserve something for a particular day, because everyday is a special day when alive.

Hereafter, when I think of that word, I will put down the trifle on my hand, pick up a book, open the audio-video and lie in the sofa to enjoy myself. I will enjoy the scenery of the freshwater river from the French casement, not mind the dust on the glass. I will drag my wife to eat outside, caring about the leftovers.

Life is an experience that we should cherish, rather than the time we have to suffer.

Once I shared this word with a lady. When we meet again, she told me that she never like before. She never put the beautiful pottery on the drink cabinet to wait for a particular day.

“Future”, “Some day” will be never in use.

If there’s something let you feel happy or proud, do it now. Don’t think the useless things any more.

 We often want to get together with our old friends, while always say “if there’s a chance”; We want to huge our grown up children, while always waiting for the moment; We want to write a letter to our beloved to let them know how we care about them, while we are never eager to realize it.

Acutely I will tell myself it is a special day every morning I wake up.

Every day, every minute, is so pressure.  

Someone says, "Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt.”  

I will dance and love as I like.

PS: “ Don’t worry. Just leave it to tomorrow.” After you read this article, you may want to say goodbye to this word. Why so many future? Who knows whether there is tomorrow or not? Just do it today, now! Doing things should like this, so does enjoying happiness.