Always listen to your heart, single mom. Especially when it’s saying something you don’t want to hear, or whispering something soft and poignant and a little yearning…
My son has a crush on a neighbor-man. This man and his wife live on the corner, with their three wonderful dogs. One day, this man even let the King of Everything walk one of his dogs. Man, was that kid ever chuffed.
Usually, we see the neighbor when we’re on the bus. The Kid always lets the man go in front of us and then tries his damnedest to sit next to him. He is crushed when his plans are foiled. Today, he got to sit across the aisle from our friend, and sat babbling away. I was a few seats away, just watching the two of them. What a sight for sore eyes. The Kid was in heaven–he really adores this guy. And the man was enjoying his conversation with my precocious son. I overheard the kid at one point… he pointed to the lady sitting next to our neighbor and asked him, “Do you know when she’s going to get off?” and explained that he wanted to sit next to our neighbor whenever the woman left. Sweet man that he is, when two seats opened up together, he turned to my son with the most natural, easygoing air and said, “Hey, you wanna move there?”
I could no longer hear them, but they were waxing fantastic about something, waving their arms around; the man would dip his head towards the child, listening, and then would have some measured, appreciated reply. I sat behind them and silently willed myself not to cry: why can’t I find someone like that for the two of us? Why? Well, wait, I sort of did. I mean, I don’t have to be in a relationship with a man. I just have to be sure that the good men around me who do love and protect my son take an active role in his life.
And if a guy is too good to be true, he probably is. Keep this in mind, ladies, when you start to date again. Listen to your little voice, the one you ignored for the sake of other, bad relationships. If your little voice is talking to you, stop and listen. Know what is important to you. Know what you deserve, and how you should be treated. And stand up for yourself. You can be a single mother. You should not be a sad woman in a bad relationship.
You are the queen of your own heart. Rule it well.
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