Everybody has a key to the happiness in his heart,but we always give it away without conciousness.
One lady complained ,"i am not happy cause my husband is always on business trip."She let the key to happiness be in her husband's control.
One mother said,"My children always be naughty which makes me mad."she lay the key in her children's hand.
One man probably says."The manager doesn't care me very much so i'm under weather."his key is in the charge of his boss.
Those persons just made the same decision,which is getting the others controlled their mood.When we always feel like the victim when we let the others take control of our mood,and we can't do anything about the present situation and then complaint and rage being our only choice.It seems that we acknowledge we can't take control ourselves and just be controled around by others.
The mature ones can control his happiness to the happiness ,In stead of expecting the others make happiness for them,they hope that they can bring the others happiness .When we are unhappy,we should ask ourselves:where is my key and is it in another one's control?