1. Self suggestion
No matter what kind of situation I am facing, there are always some of the best choices I can take. I should control my emotions by sensibility and never allow my emotions to lead my own actions. I am surely the one who is invincible as long as I am capable of controlling my own emotions.
2. Learn how to vent your sorrow
Distress, as a negative emotion, displays as low mood, filled up with sorrow and sadness and easy to be negative and pessimistic. A person with strong feeling of grieve may lead to psychological and physical hurts. So, how can we eliminate such a sad mood of despair effectively? The fundamental way lies in venting of the curbed emotional distress through positive measures. The pain can be reduced by half if you share half of your pain with your friends. You should not hide at the bottom of your heart any worries and unhappiness that you have encountered. Instead, you should pour out all these unhappiness to your relatives, your spouse, the intimate persons or anyone who knows the good sense, so as to alleviate the sorrow. Perhaps the persuasion itself does not show any effect, but the sincere concern and the sympathy the persuaders show make you feel warm. Sometimes this kind of talk is made to a stranger you met on a train whom you never met before or a fellow traveler you met on a ship. Or you can hide in a secluded corner talking to yourself aloud, or write to your distant friends letting all your worries into the air, onto the letterheads and the diary. Though others may think that you look a bit of neuropathy as talking to yourself in the mirror or writing a pile of thick letters and diaries to whomever and wherever you sent, but definitely you are sure to feel relieved after such kind of self-venting. Of course, self-venting of grudges can not be achieved through destructive actions. It is not enough if the elimination of emotional distress is solely relied on self-venting; the exercise of volition must also be strengthened. Beethoven the musician once said: one of the advantages of an excellence people is that he can be indomitable during any difficulties.
3. The control of depression
Depression is often said to be sad mood. It is a psychological state mainly taking the form of low mood. Even if you have the normal feelings, you may also fall into depression sometimes. We should say this is a normal emotional reaction. While the core performance of depression, as one of the psychological problem, is the sad mood over a period of time. Under the normal circumstances, it always displays as lacking sense of pleasure, thinking slow, being difficult to concentrate and easy to feel fatigue and unhappy, showing no interests in anything, declining in memory and acting slowly while sometimes accompanied by physical acts such as insomnia or drowsiness, weight loss, eating too much or too little.
1. Learn to vent out the suffering in an appropriate manner so as to reduce psychological pressure. You should be encouraged to tell the unhappiness in mind to close friends, teachers, family members, or use other circuitous way to make yourself relieved from venting.
2. Get contacts with people as much as possible. Do not rigidly adhere to the small world of your own. You should consciously put yourself in the collective, and look for the warmth and friendship through the rich and colorful activities.
3. Learn self-comfort and self-adjustment. If encountering the unpleasant, you should think more from the good, positive aspects, face the suffering with a smile, and maintain the broad mind. Do not think irrationally. Regulate your own vision rationally instead of having expectation that is too high. All this is helpful for you to go through the difficulties.
4. You can adjust your spiritual life by taking part into cultural and sports activities frequently in order to eliminate psychological tension, cultivate the character and open the minds.
5. Become the master of your emotions. Eliminate the unhappy thoughts through your will and maintain optimism. Do not criticize, look upon at and sympathize yourself excessively.
6. Learn from the example and read some outstanding works to open your minds.