From the day of birth, all kinds of habits or manners take root in one's mind sooner or later. What I remember is that my daughter seldom had eaten food with spices like scallion and garlic since she just began to join us at the table and she is still holding this which can be called a habit after she has grown into a young lady. Someone who likes to sleep lying on his stomach would probably hold that style when he is on his thirties or forties. The above two would be some neutral life habits hardly harm anyone in any aspect, but some are absolutely not. Holding bad manners do not only influence others but yourself, in bad ways: Hinder you from progress, even drag you off the peak of your life. I list these very bad manners that would probably affect your life according to my experience. Do they make any sense to you?
1. DRAGGING ON ONE'S FEET. Considering such people, you made an appointment at ten, he would make it ten and a half for sure. A three-days' work would probably take him four and a half days. I am wondering what this is about. Operation capacity or the lacking-time-sense thing? Dilatory people are likely aiming at nothing more than the keep-on-breathing thing, lingering to the sunset. Don't let the grass grow under your feet!
2. SHOW-OFF FREAK. Some people like to act ostentatiously with his superficial wisdom. Once on a silent bus, a dude loudly started his nonsense of some British-English-and-American-English-are-the-same thing. People laughed at him! Being laughed at may be all right with him, but the point is people like him prefer to show off rather than actually learn something. Which is the most ridiculous thing is that if there is something scare him most is people would laugh at his superficial wisdom.
3. NEVER LISTION TO OTHERS. Communication plays an important part in either life or work, and it means people talk to each other. But some people apparently get used to another way, in which he will do the talking. Each time the others come up with a different idea, there would be an immediate interrupt, "Yes, I know." Then he will continue the talking. It is actually no communication in this way. He would end up defeated by himself because he regards himself infallible and stop making any progress.
4. HESITATE TO CHANGE. Some people like sticking to old ways as he pleases. In fact, he is aware of some change has to be made when he stops to think. But then he just give up in front of his laziness. When he is asked to brace up and learn, he can state a bunch of good reasons keeping him away from books. There is a message which goes," It feels good to change." Life will be hard if you hesitate to change.
5. UNSUBSTITUTIVE. Some people somehow believe that he is playing a very important role, actually he is not. At every turn he yell at his dear wife," What do you think it will be in this house without me?" Being loved and spoiled at home so no one blame him for that, but not in the society. He is probably not aware of a saying which goes," The world remains the same without anyone." Self important people will often be dazed and panic in front of crisis because his lack of crisis awareness.
6. PLEASE EVERYONE. When you try to please everyone, you please no one! One should stick to his principle by forty!
7. CONCEAL FAULTS AND GLOSS OVER WRONGS. We all make mistakes. And we all can make amends to our mistakes if we wish. I know someone who has been doing speculations for years, failed one after another. Others warned him every time, but he never admitted his mistakes, making excuses every time. When he ran out of excuses, he began to make an issue of others' attitude. And next time you came up with some undeniable facts. Even then he would not admit it. I can not find a better loser as him. After years of hard work, he ended up returning to square one. Wait, even worse-- A bunch of debts are coming after him!
8. HAGGLE OVER EVERY OUNCE. Haggling over reward, caring too much about others' attitude, never forgetting being caused offence by someone, I happen to know someone like this. Once I was at a gathering of junior high I met this old boy. I suppose a get-together after some thirty years should be a very emotional moment. Yet just in a few minutes this guy started to grumble about someone making offence to him years ago. I was so sorry for his good memory.
9. ACT WITHOUT THINKING TWICE. Sometimes people just do not use their heads. It is no wonder fraud easily prevailed peddling fake yuanbao time after time as reported in newspaper. A word from Warren Buffett about stock markets is that he trust only the mind with common sense. Defering to others without thinking may save you a lot of " trouble". But when time comes, you may pay for it.
10. UNREADY. Some people always make a hasty effort at the last moment. If you work hard at the other times, you will not have to stay up night reviewing your English lessons, stammer at the speech or beg for signing on others' articles being published at the last minute of application for the title of professor. What were you doing? I believe you heard about a saying which goes," Chance favors the prepared mind." And I assume that you will stop your dillydally if you are perfectly clear about what it says.
11. TOO FANCIFUL. I happen to know another guy, who is always hoping to become famous overnight. But he did nothing more than impracticably believed in himself instead of learning and reading to improve his pathetic resolve and analysis ability. Confidence based on nothing is fantasy, which is unreliable. The fanciful guy often feel all at sea when something unexpected happens.
12. AFRAID OF CONFLICTS...crap..orz.
13. EASY TO BE DEJECTED. Some people are always depressed when they run into difficulties, feeling abandoned by the whole world. Being frustrated at work blaming the lack of appreciation, doing poorly at school blaming the teachers or being paid meagerly blaming the work, the world will not change a bit even if you curse everything. So, stop the grumble, adjust youself for the world, only in this way you can achieve some goals of your life.
14. TOO MUCH POUR-OUT. What I am talking about is some passive stuff of one's emotion. Confiding is necessary and good to people. However, when confiding becomes a normal thing and one can not adjust himself without pouring all his complaints or hatred out to somebody, things will go in a different way. You feel much better when you are pouring it out, but what about the others, the one who is taking all your garbage in? How will he be supposed to feel? If you do this at every turn, no one gonna stay beside you. It is not so hard to imagine, is it?
15. LACK OF PERSEVERANCE. No achievement can be achieved without taking time or perspiration. Edison once said," Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration." Lack of the quality of persevering keep some people away from success. Some of my friends were seeking advice from me on improving their English. I gave them some and warned them the perseverance is the key to success, but few of them could just carry on.