Elanso

You have tried, cried, begged, and went to therapy as a couple, but still nothing changed. You get irritated easily just by the sight of the person. You secret wished that your other half disappeared somewhere. Sinful thoughts, yes, but when you are miserable, your mind can sum up many furtive ideas.

Here are five signs that your relationship is over.

1. You just can't stand the sight of him/her

   The sound of his car pulling up on the driveway makes your heart drop. You feel heavy in your thought, and you secretly hope that he/she doesn't open the door and comes in.

2. Abusive in all forms

   When you are told to “be happy where your husband/wife is happy”, then it is abused, or “this is my house, you don't bring in the money”. That is a form of mental and emotional abuses.

3. Disrespectful and Distrust

   If you look at the person with disgust, and it is just irritating you when he/she talks. You hear the provoking tone of questions such as “are you sure about that?” or “is that so?” These are doubts, and a sign of distrust.

4. No willingness to work on the big issues

   You just cannot see the future with your partner in any circumstances. You and your partner seem reluctant to work on the big issues. You can't find a middle ground. You can't find any compromises on either part.

5. You can't recall any good memories

   You can't remember any good times, or good things about your partner. Resentments had build up over the years that your mind is flooded with bad memories. You repeat the same bad cycles when you are around each other. You realize that you are not the best person you want to be.

This is five best possible signs that tell the relationship is over. No matter how much you try or willing to go on, you will find yourself exhausted and depressed. Then one day, the moment comes, when nothing else mater, and you will just throw in the towel. You will dare the world to stop you. You care for no one's advice or opinion.

My moment came when I found myself at the bottom of the well, but that still didn't stop me. I have no job, I have no savings, I have three kids, and I have no home. Fear was no longer a factor. I was ready to shake off the dust that covered my life. I needed to shed my skin to be reborn again. Now, when someone asks “how do you know when”, I give my five reasons above and said: “you just know!”