Interpersonal relationship in career sphere is not only complex but also subtle. A teeny weeny mistake may well drag you into a rather passive condition,and this phenomena is rather familiar to anyone who have been toiling and moiling in their career. To solve this problem, timely introspection into the behavior and proper psychological adjustment towards elusive personal relationship may help to enhance the ability to survive in one's career.
Therefore, people at job had better examine themselves in terms of the following 5Qs if they wish to maintain a good working relationship with others.
1. Do you play nasty tricks on others?
Everyone detests to be tricked unconsciously and in reverse, bearing the intention to trick others is one of the most jeopardous game at work, causing colleagues' contempt, loss of job and even shattered reputation. Therefore, you are in need of self criticism if always regard your work competitors as "personal enemy" and try every means to show hostility against them. Boss expect employees' exerting their utmost instead of mutual hostility while working, as the former brings benefits while the latter increases internal troubles, harming the organization. Meanwhile, those gossip sellers and insidious tricks players always cause great offence among colleages because everyone bears the common wish to work with congenial personnels in a harmonious environment.
2. Are you always susceptible to others' influence?
Surely, traces of competiton between colleagues can never be neglected, hence the necessity to show pro or con properly. A person with "no" sticking to his teeth may generate negative feelings among his peers, while a person with a meek "yes" all the time may bring grievance to himself. They are liable to be labelled as "stupid good person" or incompetence to shoulder great undertakings, and even be manipulated like a puppet. Though it's more than likely to be involved in groups intended to harm individual or company interests, you should always bear your principle in mind and always adpot a neutral stance.
3.Do you fancy poking your nose at other's private affairs?
In a civilized world, everyone's privacy deserves to be respected. Another introspection is needed if you find yourself being extremely inquisitive as it is a behavior long been considered as impolite and of low ethical cultivation. Though sometimes it just happens unintentiously-- the idiosyncrasy of your close friend unexpectedly catch your eye and you release it to others with a slip of tongue. This may not only harm your friend but also end your relationship.
Though explanation helps to resolve occasional privacy intrusion, it won't work if it happens repeatedly. In this occasion, you should find reasons in yourself. Apart from respecting others, you should keep a distance from and hold yourself back from others' affairs, otherwise, you would be considered as a nonsence.
4. Do you always show your temper while working?
It is unwise of you to lose temper whenever annoyed by anything undesirable at work. If your negative feelings are constantly made visible, you will end up despised by others. Everyone's preference diversifies and that's why a more tolerate attitude is much desired when coming upon what you dislike. Similarly, your meat may also be considered as poison from a different perspective, so if you keep criticising others, offence is likely to be triggered.
5.Do you always lend money from your colleagues?
Economic plays an important role in resolving interpersonal relationship among colleagues. Spending much time together, issues concerning money can never be avoided and going "Dutch Pay" proves to be a most sensible approch in these occasions. Of course, it's reasonable to lend money in urgent circumstances but you should pay it back as soon as possible. Others will lose confidence in your ability to organize your life and bear skeptism towards your competence if you keep lending money. Remember to make it rule that never trap yourself in even the slightest debt. However, there is an exception to the rule. Don't make a hast decline when invited to dinner when your colleague is in the mood and remember to bring your best wishes.
The above five points well define the most sensitive areas in personal relationship. If any departure from these principles is detected, don't be perverse. Your positive attitude is required to guide yourself towards a right direction.
There are so many rules at work that everyone should keep a habit of checking his own behavior and being alert whenever mistakes are found. A positive attitude to make constant judgement is most desirable even things run well. Only in this way can we keep a harmonious relationship with people at work and enjoy the cozy atmosphere of work and life.