I often get asked what to send to people who are grieving after a recent bereavement. There are no hard and fast rules that work for everyone but I would share these thoughts Dont be afraid of sending something. The fact that you have taken the time and thought about it, means so much to a widow or widower. I think words are a wonderful gift. Words are universal and I know with me, I have reread them many times during the grief process. Personalized gifts are important. What is important to the