Once upon a time, I loved to read all celebrity biographies about outstanding legend females. I found later that they had something in common that they still could be described as childish, goodhumoured with sparkling eyes, no matter what high position they got in the eyes of their posterities. Coco Chanel or Audrey Hepburn, whatever how happy or different they were, the fatal attraction in their bones derived from the lasting appeal which mixed traits of female with naivete of children.

Love, is considered as the most brilliant fireworks in the lives of women. We grew up and matured, got hold of happiness and peace because of love. None of women who immersed in happiness would doubt of love. One saying of Mrs. Chanel after tampered should be:”People we have loved came and went, but only the love still.” While recently, there was a girl flopped down on the sofa opposite to me, with a cigarette in her mouth:”Man is none of fucking good things.”  Just at that moment, I discovered something vicissitudes from her face.

Refers to “Man is none of fucking good things”, I heard it before frequently from the local soap opera on the eight time program in the morning. It usually was used as a classic line for an aunt who has experienced vicissitudes of her life to console a crying girl. Whatever there was an affair or family violence, when it came out, it implied that you’d better bear with it, because none of men was different even if you left this man and came to another. There were girls around me loved to say the same words too, which they thought it could be the conclusion of illusory relationships after experienced again and again. What they really mean was it is rather fine with me to have a good time than to trust in men again.

As a result, I ranked this word top on the women’s inhibition words list. It was not their fault, and they also got resentments to men within a relationship, but it is really hard to judge love by sense, and the only result was to compromise or break up. Once when this word came out, it always brought people a feeling of “read person’s innumerable’. Was there any need to pretend as a woman who wallowed through time’s dust but fight repeatedly after suffering repeated defeats? What if the man who loved you silently all the time heard this word, how could he still believe you are the one he should take seriously? Those failure experiences will turn to be fortune by collected stilly, and it will teach you how to treasure your next relationship, therefore why should pretend yourself as the one who experienced vicissitudes and doubted of love?

Many girls suffered losses by outspoken. They were still naïve actually, but cannot help pretending experienced; I really could understand that they intended to protect themselves, while with the result to scare away good guys and provide chances for bad guys. So there should be some inhibition words for women to speak out readily.

The second saying came from “Xi Bao”, written by Yishu, which was quoted by many girls either: “I long for love, otherwise lots of money.” However, it was wrong to say it out even if you thought in that way. How could men really know what you need more, love or money? What’s more, why should they give you money without if he doesn’t love you? Or you are willing to be trapped in the same situation as Xi Bao who was someone’s mistress? The third saying came from Wang Fei which spread over people without being proved:”Since the men were all the same, it would be better to choose a handsome one.” This word always brought us into a situation that flooding with emotion; there was no different with “Man is none of fucking good things”. Even though I have to admit it as a part of “female freedom”, it is rather much better to meditate silently than to speak it out before you turn to be a big shot, because men will believe that you looked down on their intelligence quotient, moreover, they won’t be so impulsive.

Another saying which referred often was:”Rather better to find someone I love than someone loves me”. No matter getting hurt in a relationship or not, women always felt love still was a hard thing in a certain moment; till the last it was hard to say that whether women could accept that kind of love plot to find a poor guy to adore princess, just because they desired things to be simple. However, what I just want to say is: woman who she is, not a princess, nor an attractive seductress, better not to come out with those words readily. Men are not a slave, nor fool. Each family has their own ancestor for oblation. Would anything you get make any sense without love? Why should they give you everything without love? Therefore, just remember, there are some words you cannot speak out easily, because you have never experienced many vicissitudes of life.