Elanso

   The way you think and feeling about your life which includes your confidence and expectation about your ability has decided every move you'll take.In this world,what you can only take control is your mind!you can decide your mind.Your thought and the way you understand everything will make you have a positive or negative feeling.Your though and feelings will have an infulence on your action and then play an important role in what kind of achievement you will get.All in all,everythings originates from your thought.

   If you put emphasis on one emotion,which will play a leading role.If you want to get rid of sadness and oppresiveness,you should refuse to think of concerning persons or matters,which make you unhappy will finally disappear from your life and just like the fuel will disappear after burning.For instance,we often feel under weather and hurted after experiencing a failing love,and such situation will last for some time then we will be better.After several years when we look back ,then it will be hard for us to understand why we did like that.Cause we didn't continue to think over that unhappy love,so the unhappy feeling would disappear gradually.

  we are all unwilling to be entangled with the negative feelings,but such negative feeling has four reasons:

  The first one is seeking excuse.we always think we are unfairly treated about whatever we have done.Every time we will be mad and fell innocent while thinking of the unhappy things.Actually,the continuous problems,troubles  frustrations and temporary fail are hard to avoid appearing in our lives.That's all natural and unadvoiable in the process of growing.whatever happens,life will continue.

  The second one is reliance.Dependend too much on someone or something.Treating the bad outcoming as a shame and attack.If you are trapped in such kind of emotion,you'll be negative easily.We should get compusure and calmness,and seprate ourselves from the condition in the aspect of mood,which is  disengagement.

  The third one is self-inspection.If you put too much attention to what others think of you,you'll feel shamed when the others don't show deserable repect.If you're treated with rudeness and indifference,which will be thought as an attack on your personality and characteristic.Such kind of thought will make you feel very mad and then unhappy.The psychologists think whatever we did is relizing our self-value.If you're not confident enough,you'll be very sensitive about the other's actions and reactions.You'll put much emphasis on others.Strangly,a lot of people changed their decisions because of other people.They're reluctant to lead the unhappy marriage and work on the job they really dislike and miss the chace in fear of others' condemination.But no one is important than you to make your big decision.A mature one can decide himself without caring what kind of recognization or advice they will get.they just decide themselves.

   The last one is blaming the others.Blaming others will make you rageous and which is the most awful feeling.

   The most effecient way of getting rid of negative mood is learning to forgive others.Forgiving is just like disengagement.

   There are four kind of people you have to forgive.Above all,Your parents.whatever mistakes they have made,you should forgive them without complaint.you should appreciate them for giving the birth of you.Second ones are the persons who you have intimate relationship.however,you hope each other will be all right,and both hope you can forgive the hurt you've brought.the second one are the persons who have hurt you before.The last one is yourself.Forgive every mistake you've made,and don't be enwinded with the passing history.Let by-gone by by-gone,and start from now!