Sex is neither the "giving" from one to the other nor the simple "accepting" of one. Both man and woman shoulder the responsibility and obligation to become the leading acter or actress in sexual life. So, how to achieve the excellence and harmony of sexual life? It depends on the multual effort of the couples.
1. Harmonious daily life conduces to the excellent sexual life. In dialy life, the couples take care of each other and understand their spouse, which is the best way to strengthen their sentiment, harmonize emotional appeal and enhance intimacy.
2. To be responsible to your own sexual large charge. In allusion to the wives mainly, they hold the right to actively acquire their own sexual large charge. They should refuse husbands' requirement with gentle words when they aren't mentally or physically high.
3. To change the style of sexual life at times. It tends to be boring if you keep one style for a long period. Both of you should be innovative and try to make different time, different environments, different places and also different poses.
4.Don't wait for sexual climax. When it is hard for ladies to reach the orgasm, you might try other style as well, such as self-touch and stimulate, reading books and pictures with sexual content, which may give some help.
5. You should have proper sexual illusion. It is supposed to increase the sexual large charge of both sides.
6.Don't bring dissatisfaction into sexual life. If you don't cooperate with your spouse or deepfreeze sex, because of temporary quarrel, bad temper or complainment, you will also bring hidden trouble into your later sexual life.
7. Refer to experts once coming across sexual problems. If one side has some sexual problem, don't be shy and avoild by all means concealing his fault for fear of criticism. Otherwise, more family annoyances will be taken into life.
8. Don't pursue to be perfect everytime. Some persons(especially men) always expect every sexual experience perfect. If not, they will either blame themselves or their wives. You should keep it in mind that even the experts in this field couldn't promise all-time-perfect.
9. Don't overcare about temporary failure of sexual life. The once ED for men or the failure to the orgasm for women is too common to remember all the time. Don't be anxious or intensive about it, for fear the later sexual life will be affected negatively.
10. To create a harmonious environment for sex. It will passively facilitate the degree of sex if you have sex under a harmonious atmosphere. The mussy bedroom, disturbing of noise and no isolated establishment will badly influence the quality and quantity of sexual life.