No matter between parents and children, friends or lovers, trust is the most important base to build good relationship. In daily life, it is easy to build and destroy trust. If you are always perplexed by doubt, you should make efforts to built trust.
1. Do what you say.
The most foundational step to build trust is that you must do what you say. Even though it is just a little thing, that you do not do it or hold on to the last could result in your loss of other’s trust. Gradually, the base of trust would fall apart.
2. Never lie.
Does it sound easy? Not necessarily. Think about those white lies you said for friends, lovers or parents. Sometimes, even thought it would be unpleasant if you say the truth, you would earn more trust for that, and others would appreciate your frankness.
3. Volunteer information.
Tell some added information when comes some equivocal questions, showing your keeping nothing back. Here is an example can not build trust. “How about your meeting with layer?” “Not bad.” Here is another example can build trust. “How about your meeting with layer?” “Not bad. It is burdensome to deal with all the documents every day, but we have signed agreement and he said it would be sent tomorrow.” The content of what you say that the meeting with layer is good is similar. However, by offering some added information, you can show that you do not conceal anything.
4. Don’t omit important details.
The reason you should not omit details is that it is hard for you to keep consistent with the series of things you have omitted. Then others would notice the contradiction in what you say and view you as a liar, even you omit just only a little.
5. If you do have secrets, let it be known.
You don’t need to force yourself to drop your personal feeling and privacy to get other’s trust. Every single person has privacy his or her own, but the key to get trust is distinguishing the demarcation between privacy and secret.
6. Don’t mask truths.
“Never lie” also can be extended as “Don’t mask truths.” Sometimes, it seems harmless to replace the truth with some words sounds pleasant for keeping self-esteem. For example, a man does not admit his bankrupt but say he lose his credit card. Maybe it is harmless to say the credit card lost. Nevertheless, the trust would be destroyed if the others realize that what you say is lie. Tell the truth and don’t care the cost.
7. Keep secrets.
Don’t gossip about others or stir up trouble. Don’t leak others’ secrets.
8. If you do lie, admit to it.
At times, it is inevitable to lie. You’d better admit to it as soon as possible and explain your motive. Once you are saw through, admit to it. Otherwise, it would be another lie.