Happiness for widows sometimes feel so far apart. Then you see the stories of how people have gone on to have a fulfilling life and you can see that a death of a loved one is hard - no doubt - but it really doesn’t have to remove any chance of happiness from our lives.
I read this quote from David Myers who is the Professor of Psychology at Hope College in a new book which is about bouncing back from failure
“Happiness seems less a matter of getting what we want than wanting what we have”
When you think of how that relates to bereavement, it is so true.
- We have lost someone special however we have gained through falling in love.
- We have lost a partner, a friend, a family member but we have the memories.
- We have lost the chance of doing things together, and gained the chance to put our own dreams and aims at the forefront.
- We have felt huge pain, but gained a great humanity through that pain.
What do you miss….and what have you gained? Which do you concentrate your thoughts upon?
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