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Three levels of marriage.
The first one:marry with the love one.
The second one:marry with the love one and his/her habits.
The third one: marry with the love one, his/her habits and his/her background.
The couple in the first level have a relatively stable marriage.
The couple in the second level have a comparatively stable marriage.
The couple in the third level seldom divorce.

Those live to a ripe old age in conjugal bliss in the world basically married thrice.
The first one was in the hotel ,surrounded by the congratulation of relatives and friends,married with the lover.
The second one was at home. After geting along with each other for several years, both of them married with their habits.
Compared with the first one , the second one and the third one are totally different.Without grand wedding and congratulation of relatives and friends,they only have mutual tacit agreement.
The true marriage usually occurs in the second and third level.
Nowadays,many people divorce just after two or three years' marriage. If you analyze this phenomenon carefully, you can figure out the reason that they don't promote their marriage from the first level into the second level .
As we all kown, boiling water can kill bacteria . Passional love, like the boiling water, can kill the shortcomings of  lovers.
When the flawless prince charming and the sweet girl who were passionately in love enter the peaceful marriage, shortcoming like bacteria will come back.
At this moment, you must step into the second leve of marriage , that is marry with his/her habits, accept and forgive his/her shortcomings. Or else, the marriage will fail because of the superficial relationship of each other.
Those who were affectional couples suddenly divorce after several years. They certainly can't  into the second level of marriage.
When marriage comes into the second level, the couple barely talk about the divorce. In their mind, they have accept the other one' shortcomings . What's more , some one may turn the other' shortcoming into the concern of himself.
The marriage at this time is sweet and comfortable , which in charactered by toleration and mutual supplementation.
However, the comfort of marriage can't present the stability of marriage. The stable marriage need to be sublimated again, that means you must marry with the other' family.
That is you must extend your love to his/her parents and relatives . And you will comprehend the marriage wisely:
Your lover doesn's belong to you merely , he/she belongs to his/her parents and relatives,even his/her friends. When the marriage comes into this level, it's hard to break off.
In the world of love, many men have a misunderstanding that marriage is he marrys a woman.
They ignore the ideal and the background of the woman.
Many woman misundrstand the marriage for marrying a man .They don't kown they have to marry with habits and character of this man, as well as his family. This fault in recognition
may lead to a lot of failure marriage in the world.