Consider having an out of body experience. Imagine walking along and meeting yourself, the way you are now. Would you be friends with yourself?
If your character and actions are not congruent with what you think makes up a good friend, then perhaps its time to start lowering standards of friends, or raising standards of yourself.
What do you look for when considering who you will accept as a friend? Do you need them to be nice, intelligent, outgoing, good looking, fashionable, or perhaps settle for anyone that’s willing to talk to you? Seriously, would you be friends with a liar and a thief just because you’re lonely and in need of companionship?
To me integrity and compassion are at the foundation of a good person, and friend. I also like to surround myself with people that I can learn from about life. I enjoy the company of intelligent people that are positive, optimistic, and motivated. I love it when my friends have a special talent, unique philosophy, and other outstanding characteristics. Basically, I like to become friends with people I admire, and I admire the people that are my friends.
The strategy is to raise the standards of what you expect from yourself. If you wouldn’t be friends with a person that is just like you, then perhaps you aren’t living up to your potential, and you aren’t really satisfied with who you are. It’s fine to say that whoever you are is perfect, but it’s not practical.
I believe that the journey is more important than the destination. I do not believe that a person is ‘imperfect’ until they achieve something or other. Are you aware of your philosophies and behavior? Are you the type of person that you would consider being friends with?
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