the Yardstick of Father's Love (II)

Fathers, the most serious man in the family, has been positioned by the traditional culture, etiquette and custom accurately, elaborately and reasonably. 'Respected Father, Intimate Mother'. Father should keep his own dignity in which way he can be respected by the whole family and maintain and implement the duty of the first stakeholder on falmily education.'If the monarch is not ingenuous, his ministers throw themselves into the lap of other countries. So does the relationship between Father and Son'. In other words, Father should set an example by his own action,or he cannot educate his own children or cannot carry out the responsibility or even lead to chilren's turning on parents and estrangement of each other. Stern father and loving mother are the fixed roles of parents.Strictness and solemnity are also the fixed style of Father. But some of them misunderstand the word 'strictness' for violent education. I get some sense from the Zen education: the principle of the 'education with sticks and abuse' is to stimulate, remind and direct; the aim of it is to let children understand and increase the intelligence rather than suppress them or even show the power of the parents. Therefore, the standard of a qualified father depends on the his knowledge other than his temper. His stand neednt be higher than others, but should be superior to the others in knowledge. Father should be the fiist teacher and the spirit guard of their child.