Playing dress-up is a normal part of growing up for little girls, and has been for a very long time. But, “A lot of very sexual products are being marketed to very young kids,” said Gigi Durham, a professor at the University of Iowa, discussing how she became quite disturbed last Halloween when a 5-year-old girl came knocking on her door wearing a gauzy miniskirt, tube top and platform shoes while carrying the Bratz doll that had inspired her racy outfit.

M. Gigi Durham, who heads the Iowa Center for Communication Study at the School of Journalism and Mass Communication said, “I had an instant dizzying flashback to an image of a child prostitute I had seen in Cambodia, dressed in a disturbingly similar outfit.”

We live in a world that encourages the raising of Pop Tarts and Sesame Streetwalkers, with the media telling girls “if you’ve got it, flaunt it” along with the ridiculous pressure from popular culture to have the “anatomy of a sex goddess” and the importance of looking “hot”, while mommy’s high heels compete with pole-dancing kits sold in the toy section of stores, Hooters Girl in Training T-Shirts for toddlers, and let’s not forget the infamous padded bras and sexy underwear for young children.

Someone please tell me, when did Happy Meals Become Sexy?, and do little girls really need sequined bras and spa treatments at shops like Libby Lu, or why little girls are being turned into tarted-up prostitots while many people (including parents) continue to view sexually provocative images of children as “cute” or “no big deal”?

Professor Durham’s book, “The Lolita Effect: Why the Media Sexualize Young Girls and What You Can Do About It” should be required reading for all parents, as Durham provides the results of her 13-year research into the sexualization of children, especially girls between the ages of 8 and 12. In her book, she makes the argument that there is a link between the constant flow of highly sexualized images of young girls in the media, including Beyonce Knowles Bootylicious Kid Ads, how these sexualized images have a detrimental effect on children, and the increase in child pornography and sexual violence against young girls and women worldwide.

As the ever-increasing controversy rages on over what is child porn vs. edgy art, as well as the debate on child pornography’s link to child molesting, I had the opportunity this past week to have a conversation with Professor Gigi Durham about her book, and I asked her some questions about “The Lolita Effect” and how many parents are completely missing the sometimes subtle tactics marketers are using to target and sexually exploit YOUR children.

Interview with Professor M. Gigi Durham:

Lin: Professor, the title of your book obviously alludes to Vladimir Nabokov’s book “Lolita” published in 1955. Considering that Nabokov was an admitted child molester of 12-year-old Dolores Haze, why did you choose to name your book “The Lolita Effect”?

Gigi: I picked the title and the name of the “effect” primarily because the heroine of the Nabokov novel has become a kind of cultural shorthand for a sexy little girl who seduces older men. This is a complete misreading of the novel and the character, because in the book, we are seeing Lolita through the eyes of the predator, Humber Humbert. Many child molesters accuse their victims of seducing them or willingly participating in the abuse, but of course children are never responsible for the abuse. (See: The Profile of A Pedophile).

In the same way, I see the contemporary media as constructing girls as little Lolitas who want to project a stereotypical vampish sexuality. But the girls are the targets of media and marketing corporations: they don’t originate these fashions and these projections of sexuality. I want to emphasize that I see sexuality as a normal, natural part of human development: I’m not anti-sex. But in the book I make a clear distinction between healthy, empowered female sexuality, and the Lolita myth, which is objectifying and dis-empowering.

Lin: How does your book address the growing problem of the sexualization of girls in pop culture and sexual exploitation of children in the media?

Gigi: The book analyzes the growing occurrence of representations of sexualized young girls in popular culture, drawing on published research as well as my own analyses of a wide variety of media aimed at kids, including magazines, TV shows, web sites, movies, video games and so on.

After I establish the five core “myths” of girls’ sexuality that are circulated in these media, I show parents how identify them. At the end of each chapter, I provide concrete suggestions for helping parents (and other caring adults) to discuss these issues with girls and foster a healthier concept of sex that’s beneficial to girls and to society as a whole. I call it DIY media literacy.

Lin: How are girls learning a distorted view about what girls sexuality is about from magazines and advertisements? What are boys learning from this as well?

Gigi: Both boys and girls are getting these messages, but girls bear the brunt of them. In these media, girls are coaxed into buying into certain myths of sexuality — for example, that the more skin you show, the sexier you are, which oversimplifies the complex phenomenon of desire and sets girls up as eye-candy and boys as voyeurs. There’s no sense of equity, responsibility or mutual connection in that construction.

Other myths include girls needing to have the anatomy of a sex goddess in order to be sexual, which again is ridiculous: everyone is sexual. A third myth, probably the most dangerous one we have, links sex with youth: that is, it suggests that the younger a girl is, the sexier she is. This implies that young girls are legitimate sex partners, which is just not okay: young teens and pre-teens are not capable of making good sexual decisions. A fourth is that violence is sexy, again a very dangerous idea. Finally, the fifth myth is that girls must please boys sexually, which again disempowers girls and puts boys in charge. We have to demolish all these myths if we are to see female sexuality in other, more powerful, more ethical terms.

Lin: In your professional opinion, do you believe marketers are purposely targeting boys and men with sexualized images of girls that encourages viewing and treating girls as sexual objects? How and Why?

Gigi: Yes, I do believe this is a deliberate marketing strategy. In the book, I demonstrate the ways in which girls’ bodies are put on display for the male gaze in the mainstream media, posed and styled in passively exhibitionist ways that deny the possibility of female agency or desire while inviting male voyeurism. The reasons are multiple and complex, but ultimately they support a system in which girls’ social power is diminished. In addition, they tacitly support the burgeoning child porn and child trafficking industries.

Lin: What can we as consumers and parents do about the mass marketing and sexualization of children in order to get the marketers to change their tactics?

Gigi: The first step is consciousness-raising, and my book is part of that effort: we all need to be able to distinguish between healthy sexuality and sexualization. The next is to talk with our daughters about these issues. The next is to talk back: we can write to media outlets, we can communicate with marketers, and we can boycott products that sexualize young girls. It’s all part of media literacy and grassroots activism.

Lin: What about the violent video games, such as “Grand Theft Auto”, that treat women as degraded sex objects that can be killed after having sex with them?

Gigi: I am troubled by how insistently violence and sex are linked in many video games and other media targeted at young boys. But I am not in favor of censorship. Once again, discussion and dialogue are important. Boys need to hear girls’ viewpoints on these games. Boys have mothers, sisters, and girlfriends: they will realize that these representations of violence have deep impacts on girls’ lives.

It’s important to make all children and teens aware of the problems of violence against women in this — and every — society. Boys can become part of the solution. Once again, with young teens parents and other adults have a right to monitor their children’s media use, being sure to explain any restrictions they impose. (Interview concluded)

Some people, including parents, believe these products and provocative images are “cute” and “no big deal”, not realizing how all of it is linked to child porn, child trafficking and the prevalence of child sexual abuse. If you’re going to allow your little girls to dress like vamps and tramps, don’t be surprised when she grows up dressing like a two-cent hooker as a young adult.

The Lolita Effect: Why the Media Sexualize Young Girls and What You Can Do About It

Further Reading:

So Sexy, So Soon: The Sexualization of Childhood in Commercial Culture

You Are What You Wear: What Your Clothes Say About You

Lets Talk About Teens and Sex