I have had a Best Friend for at 28 years now. It was a friendship that developed in elementary school. Over the years, we’ve been so blessed to stay connected. However, during these years, there have been some ups and downs as it is with most relationships. I did what any Best Friend should do, I sucked it up and fought to make it work.

Now in my mid 30’s, I find that I am tired of fighting. I haven’t been a perfect Best Friend, but I have been a loyal one. At times, I felt that my Best Friend was very selfish. When doing things even from childhood it had to be her way. She’s actually a very sweet person, but she is extremely selfish, but doesn’t realize it. There have been so many times when I’ve needed her support and could never receive it. There are times when I’ve needed to see her present at events such as the birth of my child, my child’s first birthday party, special events, and she wasn’t there.

For years, I have felt a void in our relationship. It has felt very one-sided. I know that you don’t give to receive, but sometime you’d like to feel loved and appreciated to. I’ve seen my Best Friend go out of her way to get to and what she wants, but has never put forth that kind of energy in being a Best Friend. I would drop anything for her and would help her any way that I possibly could, but that's not how she operates.

This week I’ve done some soul searching. For years, my family and other friends have told me that they felt like she wasn’t truly my Best Friend. After the many years of struggling with this void that I feel and not feeling truly happy about the friendship, I have decided that she’s not my Best Friend. I believe that God has appointed a Best Friend for me and that He will lead that person into my life when my heart and faith are ready to receive them. I now have peace calling my former Best Friend a really good friend. My outlook is much brighter now and the hope that I had lost has returned.

If you’d just like me, appreciate that good friend and believe God for your Best Friend.