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One big mistake that I have made many times and I guess others do too – many might even do it on a daily basis – is to think what you feel right now is kinda permanent. That it is how you really feel about things and will feel in the near future too.
However, it is really hard to predict how you will feel just an hour or 15 minutes from now. The mind fools you as you identify with the emotions you are feeling right now. This can really hold you back in your daily life. Which of course makes a huge impact on your overall life.
Should I stay at home or just go?
You may for example not feel like going to the gym today. Your mind might say “It’s ok, you don’t need that anyway, you were there three days ago”. And so you lie back on the couch. But you can also say to yourself “No, today is workout day and I will go even though I don’t feel like it/don’t think I need to”. And so you go. And after you have been there for maybe 15 minutes you start to enjoy it and you’re glad you went.
Or there might be a party this weekend. But you are hesitant to go because you will only know one other person there. Maybe no one will to talk to you. Maybe it will be awkward. You may tell yourself “Well, it’s better to just stay home and take it easy”. But then you go despite those uncertain feelings and small disaster scenarios in your head. And you have a great time and met a new fun friend that is into the same things as you are.
If you go with your inner voice and what you are feeling right now you will miss out on a lot of stuff. And when it comes to your personal development you will be wildly inconsistent.
Be consistent, be awesome.
People will often not get the results they want. A part of that comes from advertising that tells us over and over that we can get what we want much faster than is really realistic. This leaves us disillusioned. But another part of this lack is because people don’t apply the actually very helpful pointers and advice they get in a consistent manner.
If you want to lose fat on your body you have to go and workout consistently. You can’t just do it when you feel like it. Like maybe a few times a month. You have to monitor what you eat and think before you stuff things into your mouth. If you go with what you feel you may want to reward yourself a bit too much with treats. Or think that you will just work off that extra sugar when you go to the gym. But as I understand it at least the very most important factor for fat loss is about consistently eating less calories than you use.
Now, I don’t want to paint a bleak picture where you have to behave like a robot and can’t have one single ice-cream this summer. And I am not saying that you shouldn’t trust your intuition or gut in life and when it comes to big things and decisions.
But I have come to understand that my mind doesn’t always want what I know is the right thing to do. The mind often tries to get us to choose the easiest option in our daily lives. It makes it seem like what you feel now is reality. Even though emotional states are fleeting and you can change them around in just a few minutes or hours by going to that gym or party.
And the thing is if you start to not take what you feel or think right now too seriously and do the right thing anyway you can not only get much better results than you may have before. You will also feel a lot better about yourself right now when you do what you know deep down is the right thing to do.
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在生活中会阻碍你发展的一个常犯的错误
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认为刚才感觉到的东西永远都是不会发生变化的，这是一项我犯了很多次的大错误。我猜，其他人也犯同样的错误吧—很多人甚至在日常生活中常犯这样的错误。
然而，要预测从现在开始的一个小时或十五分钟后，你的感觉是怎么样的是件很困难的事情。是大脑愚弄了你,因为你用刚才感觉到的情感去分辨将来你感觉到的东西，。这真的会在日常生活中成为你发展的阻碍。当然它会对你的一生造成极大的影响。
我应该留在家里还是应该去呢？
例如，你今天也许不想去健身房。你的思想也许会说“没关系的，无论如何你不需要去那里的，你三天前已经去过了”。因此，你重新躺回长沙发椅。但是，你也会这样对自己说“不，今天是运动的日子，尽管我不喜欢去/我认为我不需要去，但是我会去的”。因此，你去了。也许当你到那里十五分钟后，你就开始喜欢它了，你很高兴你去了那里。
或者也许在这个周末，会有一个聚会。但是你不愿意去，因为你只认得在那里的一个人。也许没有人和你聊天。也许聚会会很无聊。因此,也许你会告诉自己说“那么，舒舒服服的留在家里更好”。尽管你脑海里充满了那些不确定感和小灾难情形，但是你还是去了那个聚会。你在那里度过了很愉快的时光并且结识了一位很有趣的新朋友。他和你一样有着同样兴趣爱好。
如果你刚才跟随着你内心的声音和的感觉，你将会错过很多东西。当它涉及到你的个人发展时，你内心的声音和的感觉在聚会前后是极其不一致的。
坚持是值得敬佩的。
人们经常得不到他们所想要的结果。有一部分原因是因为广告，它一次又一次言过其实地告诉我们：我们能以更快的速度得到我们所想要的。这令我们很失望。另一部分是因为人们没有运用实际上很有帮助的指示和建议，这些指示和建议是他们以一贯的方式得到的。
如果你想要减掉身上的脂肪，你就必须持续地去运动。你不能只是在你喜欢做的时候才去做它。像一个月也许只运动几次这种情况。在你把东西塞进你嘴里之前，你必须检查一下你吃的是什么和思考一下你是否该吃。如果你跟随你的想法把东西吃了，也许你只是想要用丰盛的食物来犒劳一下自己。或者你认为当你去健身房时，你会把那些额外的糖分给消耗掉的。但，据我了解，至少，比起你所消耗的，摄入更少的卡路里才是减肥的一个非常重要的因素。
好了，我并不想为你勾勒一幅凄凉的画面：在画里，你必须表现得像只兔子一样只吃素食，整个夏天都不能吃一支冰淇淋。我也不是说当涉及到大事情和重要决定时你不应该相信自己在生活中的直觉或本能。
但是，我已经开始明白我的大脑总是不想去做我认为是对的事情。大脑经常试着让我们去选择在我们日常生活中最简单的选项。这使得你现在感觉到的东西看起来好像是真实的东西。尽管情绪状态是短暂的，通过在那个健身房或聚会大概只是几分钟或几个小时内，你都可以改变他们。
问题是如果你开始不会太过于严肃地对待你刚才所感觉到的和所想的东西，不管怎样，做正确的事情吧，那么，你不仅能得到比以前可能得到的好很多的结果。当你做你内心深处认为是正确的事情的时候，马上地，你的自我感觉也会好很多。
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