原文: When a parent starts dating again [GenBetween]

A few people have asked me if I think my father will start dating again (my mom died almost 2 years ago).

While only he can answer that for sure, I really don’t think he will based on his experience with his own father who re-married at nearly 80 years old, and the fact that he stays very busy with work. But, I guess you never know.

However, I do know a number of people, including some of you, whose widowed father or mother has begun dating again, and I know it is a topic full of all kinds of emotion.

I’m only speculating here, but it seems like part of you would be glad that your parent has a companion, but another part may feel (even if it’s not actually true) that your parent is somehow being disloyal to the deceased spouse. Then there’s the whole issue of how long someone “should” wait to begin dating again.

For me, as the parent of a teenager, I think that would add a whole new “layer” to my “sandwich” if both my dad and my daughter entered the dating pool at the same time.

So, have you had this experience? Tell us about how it went when your bereaved parent began dating again.

译文: 当单亲父母又开始约会

      曾经有一些人问过我我是否想过我的父亲会再次约会(我的母亲大约2年前去世了)。

      然而只有他能够肯定地回答这一问题，我不认为他会依据他自己的父亲的经验来做出决定，他自己的父亲在将近80岁的时候又结婚了，而且事实是他工作非常忙碌。但是我猜，你永远不会知道的。

      然而，我知道有许多人，包括你们中的一些人的鳏居的父亲或母亲又开始约会了，我知道这是一个令人百感交集的话题。

      我只是在这里揣测，似乎你们中的一部分人对父母有了新伴侣感到很高兴，但是另一部分人可能感到（即使这并不是事实）你的父母从某种程度上说对死去的伴侣不忠。于是有了这样一个话题，一个人应该等待多久才开始另对于我来说，作为一名青少年的父母，我认为那将会给我的“三明治”又加新的一层，如果我的父亲和我的女儿同时开始恋爱并且约会的话。

      你有过这样的经历吗？告诉我当你的丧偶的父母又开始约会的时候，你感觉如何？