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“True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it is lost.” -Charles Caleb Colton
When somebody says “best friend,” who is the first person to pop into your head? Is it your spouse, your next door neighbor, or even your own pet?
What if no one pops into your head?
There are many reasons why you may not have a best friend. Perhaps you have trouble connecting, you don’t want to label yourself a best friend, you’ve had previous problems with a friend or you simply don’t want one. I’ve been there and done that, and now I would like to share what I learned along the way.
Firstly, I don’t suggest you put up signs all over the place when searching for a best friend. What I do suggest, however, is to always remain open to the possibility of making a new friend. Any person you meet could eventually become someone with whom you interact with constantly and often. It can’t ever hurt to be genuinely nice, and usually this will result in the other person realizing you are a pleasant human being.
If you haven’t had the opportunity to enjoy best friendship, I’ll be the first to tell you: you are missing out. There is really nothing to compare to somebody who connects to you on a level that is stars above the moon. Believe me, I was once unsure how I would be able to make a best friend, but it did happen. And it can happen for you, too!
My skepticism came from thinking that no one had a vast majority of similar traits as me (your best friend doesn’t have to). There was one school night though, about a year ago, where I asked a guy I didn’t know too well a question. He answered it with sincerity and happiness and from there the rest is history. We went cycling, to baseball games and to tennis matches. We’re best friends.
Enough about me though. What you are really doing when you have a best friend is creating a relationship that, hopefully, will last a lifetime. I write about it because it’s one of the many ways to fulfill yourself and create an everlasting bond between you and another human being. The benefits from having somebody close to you include:
- Helping to reveal the best of you.
- Comfort that someone is always there.
- An outlet for information you keep inside.
- Improving your physiological state.
- Taking your social life to new levels.
- The ability to live, laugh and love together.
- A potential partner in crime.
For those of you who do have a best friend in life, who is it? What does he/she mean to you? Are there any particular reasons you enjoy this persons’ company?
About the writer: Dan Miranda is the thirteen year old blogger behind Command Your Time. Check it out today! You may also like to follow Dan on Twitter.
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译文:
寻求最好的朋友
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“真正的友谊就像健康的身体.只有在失去的时候才知道它的价值—查尔斯·凯莱布·科尔顿
一说起最好的朋友，第一个涌现在你脑海里的那个人是谁？是你的伴侣，你的邻居，还是你的宠物？
如果没有人出现在你的脑海里，那会怎么样?
有很多理由可以用来解释你为什么没有好朋友。可能是你跟别人沟通有问题，可能是你不想标榜自己是某个人的好朋友，或许是你过去跟朋友有矛盾，又或者你不想拥有最好的朋友。我曾经也是那个样子，没有好朋友。现在我想和你分享一路走来我所学到的东西。
首先，寻找好朋友时，我认为你不必到处宣扬说你想找个好朋友。我所想说的是你应该一直敞开胸怀，和每一个可能成为你的新朋友的人交往。你遇见的任何一个人都有可能最终会成为你的朋友，你和他/她也会因此而经常联络。两人之间坦诚相见、友好相处不会有什么坏处，通常，别人还会意识到你是个好相处的人。
如果你还没有机会拥有好朋友，那么就让我第一个告诉你真相：你只是错失了良机。把跟你有联系的某个人比作月亮之上的星星真的没有必要。我曾经也缺乏信心，不知道怎样做才能交到好朋友，但是我做到了，你也能做到的！相信我。
我有所怀疑是因为我认为没有一个人会跟我有很多相似的特性。（但你的好朋友不一定要有很多跟你相似的特性）大约是一年前的一个晚上，我有一个不太明白的问题，就问了旁边的小伙子。他很乐意并且很真诚地给予解答。从那以后，一切顺理成章。我们一起骑脚踏车，一起打棒球，一起看网球赛。我们成为了最好的朋友。
关于我说的够多的了。当你有了一个好朋友的时候，你现在所做的一切就是建立一种延续一生的关系。（前提是如果一切顺利的话）我之所以写这个是因为它是充分发挥你才能的其中一种方式。同时，你跟其他人之间也建立起永久的情感纽带。有好朋友的好处包括以下几点：
- 帮助展示你最好的一面。
- 总有人相伴，感到安慰。
- 拥有一个发泄内心想法的出口。
- 改变你的生理状态。
- 让你的社交生活提升到一个新高度。
- 具备和别人一起生活、欢笑的能力，爱别人。
- 有可能成为不法行为的共犯。
对于那些有好朋友的人，你们的好朋友是谁？他/她对你来说意味着什么呢？有没有特别的缘由让你觉得有他./她相伴你很快乐。
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