Writing down your goals and taking steps to achieve them is just part of becoming successful. Life has its own twists and turns and loves to surprise us. Sometimes we experience change, disappointment and circumstances beyond our control. Sometimes we might feel as though we have failed, either in a big or small way. You need to deal with this failure then get back on track.
Overcoming ProblemsIf things do not seem to be going how you want, it is easy to lose hope and feel discouraged. You might miss a goal deadline or feel things are moving too slowly. Perhaps an unforeseen event knocks you totally off course.
First of all, take a deep breath and realize it is all right. Everyone goes through this. The important thing is how you react and deal with it.
You will need to pick yourself up off the floor sometimes and start over. When you have a glitch on your path, you have to keep going. Everyone who is successful now has failed at some point in the past. Nobody is perfect. Every failure moves you closer to your goal because you can learn from it what went wrong. But you do have to keep on going.
Maybe you have an 'inner critic' who tells you that after failure it is not worth bothering to pursue this goal. This is just down to negative thinking. Be strong, tell the critic their advice is unwelcome and keep on going.
Planning the FutureIf you have experienced a setback, be it small or large, you have to reprioritize. Perhaps the setback was due to circumstances you couldn't have controlled. Maybe you needed more time or information to make your plan work. Ask yourself if you are still happy with the goals you chose and if you are happy with the whole process.
Keep happiness and fulfillment at the top of your priority list. Try to minimize the impact of your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. Plan your goals so you can do them in smaller steps. If you have a setback, reevaluate your plan. The most important thing is to encourage yourself to keep going, no matter what.
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怎样成为自己的良师益友（第三部分）
首先写下你的目标，然后用不同的步骤来完成这个目标——这是获得成功的一种方法。
生活有它自己的运转方向，它时常会给我们带来惊喜。
有时我们会遇到各种变化、失望、和超出预计的情形。
有时我们用尽各种方法，结果还是以失败而告终。
克服眼前的问题
如果事情并不向你想象的方向发展，你会感到失去信心、感到气馁。
你会错过完成目标的期限，可能事情进行的并不顺利，也许没有预料到的时间颠覆了你的所有计划。
首先，请你深呼吸一下！振作一下精神。每个人都可以这样做。
要记住当你遇到困难时最重要的是你给出的反映和你认为自己可以怎样克服它。
你需要做的是从失望中振作起来然后重新开始。
当你前进的道路上有阻碍时，你一定要坚持走下去。
每一个现在成功的人都是从过去的失败中走过来的。
没有人是完美的。
每一次的失败都会使你离目标更进一步因为你可以从失败中学习到经验。但是你必须坚持下去。
也许你会遇到那些吹毛求疵的人，他们会告诉你如果失败了就没有必要在再去追求自己的目标。
其实这只是一种消极的态度。
让自己强大起来，告诉那些人：他们的建议不受欢迎。继续坚持下去吧。
对未来的计划
如果你有过失败的经历，不论严重与否，你都可以先变更优先顺序。
也许这次失败是由于环境因素导致，而你自己不能控制。
也许你需要更多的时间和信息来使你的工作计划更完整。
问问你自己吧，你对自己选择的目标是不是信心十足，你对完成目标的过程是不是感到满意。
让愉快的心情和满足的心态成为你最重要的课题吧。
把你的弱点对自己的影响力降到最低，而集中精力发挥你的专长。
对你制定的目标做出计划，这样你就可以一步一步来完成它。
如果你遇到了挫折，就重新评估你的计划。
最重要的一点还是鼓励自己不要放弃，无论如何都要坚持下去。