We have all heard the word "Accountability" used around goal setting, but why? Is it really that big of a deal? Can't we just do it on our own?
Think back to all the goals you've ever made - from the simple ones to the large ones. Which goals were achieved and which weren't? Make a list of at least ten goals you can think of, writing "MET" or "NOT MET" next to each one. This visual exercise may help you understand at least one of the reasons why the NOT MET goals were - well, not met.
My guess is your MET goals were accomplished with the help of at least one other person. A friend, spouse, parent, or colleague who was in on your goal, perhaps because it was a goal they shared with you, or perhaps only because they were interested in you and how you were handling it.
Regardless, every time you bring another person into a goal, you have a better chance at realizing that goal. Without accountability, most people are likely to forget why it was so important to them, quit progressing toward it, or simply decide it's not worth the hassle.
However, with accountability - meaning you know exactly what you want, when you want it, and there is at least ONE other person who has the same knowledge - guess what, you will more than likely continue toward the finish line.
While humans are really good at admitting defeat to themselves, they are far less able to admit defeat to another person. It's actually (in most cases) easier for them to keep working toward their goal just so they DON'T have to admit they "gave up" to another person.
Accountability works for the following reasons: * Shared Intention - When you share your intention with others, it becomes more real to you, which raises the stakes.
* Responsibility - By confiding in another person, you're claiming responsibility to the goal you want to pursue. This creates a more focused outlook as you pursue your goal.
* Ownership - Own your goals by bringing another person or persons into the loop. When you take control by placing ownership on your goal - success is far easier reached.
* Commitment - Simply by communicating your plan with others forces you, like little else does, to commit. You know they'll be asking about your progress, checking in to see how things are going, and they'll be very interested in the entire process. You almost have no choice but to commit at this stage!
So who can help you keep accountable to your goals so you can move them from the UNMET to the MET category? Do you need an accountability partner? Do you really own your goals by bringing another person into the loop? Who is that person going to be? Just make sure it is someone who will really stretch you, and won't hold you back to their level. It can be a friend, colleague or professional coach. Whoever it is, make sure they will REALLY hold you accountable to setting and moving those goals to the "MET" category!
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Business and Life Coach Cheri Alguire has partnered with hundreds of Real Estate Professionals and Small Business Owners to help them become more successful in business and in life. Coach Cheri specializes in Coaching and Training for Small Business Owners, Working Mothers, Real Estate Agents and Managers. You can learn more at
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为什么问责会帮你达成目标？---Cheri Alguire
在设定目标时，我们都会听到“问责”这个词，但是为什么呢？它真的那么重要吗？我们自己不可以做到吗？
回想以前你定过的所有目标---从小的到大的。什么样的目标你达到了？什么样的目标你没有达到呢？最少列出十个你能记得的目标，然后在每个目标旁边写上“达到了”或者是“没有达到”。这种看得见的操练可以帮助你明白目标没有达成的一些原因，至少有一个。
我猜你的目标能够达成是因为有人，至少有一个人给你提供了帮助，朋友，你的另一半，父母或者是同事---这些赞同你的目标的人，或许是因为这个是你们共同的目标，又或者是他们对你以及你怎么对待你的目标感兴趣。
不管怎么样，每次当你把你的目标和另外一个人分享的时候，你实现目标的可能性就会增大。没有问责的话，很多人就可能会忘记为什么这个目标对他们来说如此重要，然后就会停滞不前，或者觉得它这个目标不值得他们花费那么多心思。
然而，有问责的存在---意味着你清楚地知道你想要的是什么，你什么时候想要，而且最起码有另一个人有着和你一样的理解 ---然后，你会非常想坚持到终点。
人们总是擅长向自己承认失败，但是他们却不能向另一个人承认失败。为了不想对另一个人承认他们的“放弃”， （在大多数情况下）对他们来说继续朝着他们的目标前进便变得容易多了。
因为如下原因问责显得很有成效:
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共同的目标---当你把你的目标和另一个人分享的时候，对你来说它会变得更加现实，这样它就会更容易实现。
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责任感--- 当你取得别人的信任的时候，你需要有责任感来达成你所追求的目标。这样当你为你的目标而努力的时候你就会越来越关注它。
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拥有权---通过和其他人一起合作来拥有你自己的目标。当你能够重视你对目标的拥有权时，你就更容易成功了。
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承诺---只是简单地和别人交流你的计划也会强迫你许下承诺，就像其他小事一样。你知道他们将会问及你的进程，查看事情发展得怎么样了，而且他们也会对整个进程都很感兴趣。这时候除了给他们承诺你没有其他的选择了。
那谁会帮助你对你自己的目标进行说明，从而让本来实现不了的目标能够实现呢？你是否需要一个问责的同伴呢？你是不是真的因为和另一个人一起合作从而拥有了你的目标呢？这个人将会是谁呢？要确定真的有某个人会鞭策着你，而且不会让你回到原地。这个人可以是朋友，同事，或者是专业的教练。不管是谁，你要确保你要对他进行说明从而你能够设定目标并且能够把这些目标移动到“已实现”的目录。
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事业和生活教练Cheri Alguire已经结交了成百上千的房地产专家和小企业家，并且帮助他们在事业上和生活上变得更加成功。Cheri教练专门培训小企业家，需要上班的母亲，房地产经纪人和经理。在NextLevelServices.net 和 CoachCheri.com.上你可以知道得更多。
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