自我暗示
无论面对怎样的人生处境，总会有一些最好的选择。我要用理智来控制情绪,决不让情绪来主导自己的行动，只要善于控制自己的情绪，我就是这个战无不胜的人。
学会宣泄你的忧伤忧伤
作为一种负面情感，表现为情绪底下，好忧愁，多伤感，易消极悲观。忧伤情绪强烈的人，可能造成心理和生理的损伤.那么,怎样才能有效地消除这种忧伤绝望的情绪呢？根本的办法是通过积极的措施,宣泄压抑着的忧伤情绪.痛苦如果分一半给朋友，那痛苦就减少了一半.遇到烦恼和不顺心的事情,切不可忧伤压抑，把心事深藏心底，而应该把这些烦恼向你的亲人、配偶或知心的人、明晓事理的人倾诉，以此来减轻忧伤。对方的劝说也许没起什么作用，但他的真诚的关怀和同情能使你感到温暖，有时这种谈心的对象也可以是素不相识的火车或轮船上的同路人。要不然，你也可以躲进一个僻静的角落放声自言自语，或提笔写信给远方的旧友，把你的烦恼甩到空气里，洒在信纸上，记在日记中。尽管在旁人看来，你对镜子自言自语有点神经病的模样，或是你写厚厚一叠寄往何方何人的信和日记，但你肯定会在经过这场自我宣泄后感到内心如释重负，轻松了许多。当然，自我宣泄不能用破坏性的行动来发泄心中的积怨和烦闷。
忧伤情绪的消除仅仅依靠自我宣泄是不够的，还必须加强意志力的锻炼。音乐家贝多芬曾经说过：卓越的人一大优点是，在不利的艰难遭遇里能够百折不挠。
控制抑郁情绪抑郁就是人们常说的忧郁
它是一种以情感低落为主要表现形态的心理状态。情感正常也有抑郁的时候，应该说，这是一种正常的情绪反应。作为心理问题的抑郁，其核心表现是一段时间内的郁郁寡欢。在通常情况下，总是现得内心愁苦，缺乏愉快感，思维迟钝，注意力不集中，记忆力减退，动作缓慢，疲乏无力，常感到不顺心，对什么事情都没兴趣，有时还伴有失眠或昏睡、体重下降、饮食过多或过少等生理表现。
1.学会将自己的痛苦以适当的方式发泄出来，减轻心理上的压力。要敢于把自己不愉快的心事向知心朋友、老师、家里人诉说，或采用迂回方式，从宣泄中得到解脱。
2.多与人交往。不要拘泥于个人的小天地，应自觉地把自己置于集体中，从丰富多彩的集体活动中寻找温暖和友谊。
3.学会字我安慰，自我调节。遇到不愉快的事，应多从好的、积极方面着想，笑对痛苦，保持豁朗的情怀。不要瞻前顾后、想入非非，不要有过高的奢望，合理调节自己的抱负水平，有助于走出困境4.经常参加生态活泼的文娱体育活动，调节自己的精神生活，以消除心理紧张，陶冶情操，开阔心胸。
5.做情绪的主人。通过意志消除不愉快的情绪，保持乐观主义。不要过分自责、自悲、自怜。
6.向榜样人物学习，阅读一些优秀作品以开阔心胸。
译文:
How to Control Our Own Emotions
1. Self suggestion
No matter what kind of situation I am facing, there are always some of the best choices I can take. I should control my emotions by sensibility and never allow my emotions to lead my own actions. I am surely the one who is invincible as long as I am capable of controlling my own emotions.
2. Learn how to vent your sorrow
Distress, as a negative emotion, displays as low mood, filled up with sorrow and sadness and easy to be negative and pessimistic. A person with strong feeling of grieve may lead to psychological and physical hurts. So, how can we eliminate such a sad mood of despair effectively? The fundamental way lies in venting of the curbed emotional distress through positive measures. The pain can be reduced by half if you share half of your pain with your friends. You should not hide at the bottom of your heart any worries and unhappiness that you have encountered. Instead, you should pour out all these unhappiness to your relatives, your spouse, the intimate persons or anyone who knows the good sense, so as to alleviate the sorrow. Perhaps the persuasion itself does not show any effect, but the sincere concern and the sympathy the persuaders show make you feel warm. Sometimes this kind of talk is made to a stranger you met on a train whom you never met before or a fellow traveler you met on a ship. Or you can hide in a secluded corner talking to yourself aloud, or write to your distant friends letting all your worries into the air, onto the letterheads and the diary. Though others may think that you look a bit of neuropathy as talking to yourself in the mirror or writing a pile of thick letters and diaries to whomever and wherever you sent, but definitely you are sure to feel relieved after such kind of self-venting. Of course, self-venting of grudges can not be achieved through destructive actions. It is not enough if the elimination of emotional distress is solely relied on self-venting; the exercise of volition must also be strengthened. Beethoven the musician once said: one of the advantages of an excellence people is that he can be indomitable during any difficulties.
3. The control of depression
Depression is often said to be sad mood. It is a psychological state mainly taking the form of low mood. Even if you have the normal feelings, you may also fall into depression sometimes. We should say this is a normal emotional reaction. While the core performance of depression, as one of the psychological problem, is the sad mood over a period of time. Under the normal circumstances, it always displays as lacking sense of pleasure, thinking slow, being difficult to concentrate and easy to feel fatigue and unhappy, showing no interests in anything, declining in memory and acting slowly while sometimes accompanied by physical acts such as insomnia or drowsiness, weight loss, eating too much or too little.
1. Learn to vent out the suffering in an appropriate manner so as to reduce psychological pressure. You should be encouraged to tell the unhappiness in mind to close friends, teachers, family members, or use other circuitous way to make yourself relieved from venting.
2. Get contacts with people as much as possible. Do not rigidly adhere to the small world of your own. You should consciously put yourself in the collective, and look for the warmth and friendship through the rich and colorful activities.
3. Learn self-comfort and self-adjustment. If encountering the unpleasant, you should think more from the good, positive aspects, face the suffering with a smile, and maintain the broad mind. Do not think irrationally. Regulate your own vision rationally instead of having expectation that is too high. All this is helpful for you to go through the difficulties.
4. You can adjust your spiritual life by taking part into cultural and sports activities frequently in order to eliminate psychological tension, cultivate the character and open the minds.
5. Become the master of your emotions. Eliminate the unhappy thoughts through your will and maintain optimism. Do not criticize, look upon at and sympathize yourself excessively.
6. Learn from the example and read some outstanding works to open your minds.