What do people look for in a date? Once you have the answer to this question you will have the power to appeal to any women/man you want. So let’s have a look at some of the basics.
Remember the saying “you never get a second chance to make a great first impression.” Did you know that when meeting someone for the first time they will evaluate, judge and most likely stereotype you all in the first 3 minutes? That’s right, all in the first 3 minutes! The first few minutes of meeting someone new are so crucial, you must learn to make those minutes work FOR you, and not against you. And since much of this judgment is based on physical appearance and what is communicated in those first few minutes, we can actually adjust our behavior to obtain better results. Here are a few tips to help you achieve this.
How should you dress when meeting someone for the first time? You should wear a well put together outfit; you will look great and portray more confidence. So first, always wear clothes that fit the occasion. You don’t want to meet someone at a fancy restaurant in jeans and a t-shirt when the other person is dressed to kill. Second, always wear a well coordinated outfit that fits you well. By looking clean and stylish you show that you care about your appearance and how you portray yourself. Believe me, people will take notice. When meeting someone for the first time especially in those first 3 minutes image is everything.
When ever you go out you should take the time to look your best. After all you never know when you might run into the date of your dreams. Accessories really do make a big difference to an outfit and to your look. People will respond to the image you project, basically if you look like a bum, you will be treated like a bum. So if you want to have more sex appeal, wear something that makes you feel sexy. If you want to have more control, wear something that make you feel like you have authority. Once you have the wardrobe for your desired image consider the other behaviors that attribute to your personal persona. Be aware of your physical gestures, how you make eye contact etc. What ever you wear be sure to show good taste.
Guys today’s women will take notice of everything to do with your grooming habits. Things like has he showered, hair washed and styled? Are his clothes clean, does he smell nice? And, all these little things really do matter to most women. And ladies, many guys today care about the very same things. They want their date to look hot with freshly washed and styled hair, nice clothes and smell pretty. So before you go out on that date be sure to take some extra time getting ready. Show your date you care about your appearance
Now you don’t have to be a buffed body builder, but you should make an effort to stay fit. And, not just for your own health. Exercise not only makes you look good, but it will make you feel great as well. Also, that trimmer waist line will do wonders for increasing your energy helping you to go All Night Long with your date. When someone looks good, carries themselves well and has good posture it’s an indication of a good lover - both in men and women.
People love those who are unique, someone with individuality. Do a self-analysis of yourself, what quality (or qualities) do you possess that makes you different, one of a kind.. Then draw attention to that quality. Do you drive a car that is different, is your jewelry different? Something small like wearing a hat will give you individuality, it will make you stand out from the crowd. For fun try wearing a Stetson or fedora, then watch to see what kind of reaction you get.
You must appear to be confident in your every move. Having self-confidence is some thing you can learn. Even if you are not too confident right now you can pretend to be. Yes, that’s right pretend to be. To appear to be confident, always look people in the eyes when speaking to them. Breathe normally, and speak in a slow controlled manner. Don’t fidget. And when the other person speaks, give all your attention to them. I know this can be difficult at first, but the more you practice the easier it will get. Trust me.
Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show the Date of your Dreams that he/she is important to you, that what he/she has to say is important to you, you will be easily in their good graces. You do this by being attentive. Make sure your date is comfortable, and content. Give compliments, find the thing that others would miss and compliment that. Really listen during your conversations. Simply admire the person you are with, show respect, make him/her feel good about his/herself .
If you can make someone laugh, you will often be able to win their heart as well. Don’t be too serious, relax and have some fun. Laugh out loud and your Dream Date with laugh along with you. Be happy, be funny, and love life.
Good Luck!
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怎样在约会时心想事成
人们期望怎样的约会呢？一旦知道了这个问题的答案，你就有能力向约会中的男性或女性展示魅力。让我们来了解一些常识。
记住一句话“塑造良好的第一印象你只有一次机会。”你知不知道在第一次见某人时人们通常会在前3分钟之内用老一套来对你做出评价和判断？没错，就在前3分钟。第一次与人见面的前几分钟是有决定性作用的，所以你必须学会使这几分钟的会面为你服务，而不是帮倒忙。由于这种判断大多是基于自然的表现，实际上我们可以通过纠正我们的举止来取得更好的效果。这里有一些帮你成功的小贴士。
第一次与某人见面的时候你应该打扮一下。你应该衣着得体；你会看上去很精神很自信。所以首先在着装上要与场合相适应。当出席一个豪华餐厅而别人都衣着华丽的时候，你不会愿意穿着T-恤和仔裤去见人。第二，穿着要符合自己身份。衣着潇洒整洁展示出你举止谨慎并且注重自身的形象。相信我，人们会刮目相看的。第一次见某人尤其是前3分钟，形象就是一切。
你出门后应该随时随地展现自己最好的一面。毕竟你不知道什么时候梦寐的时刻就会来临。装饰真的会使你和衣着看起来与众不同。人们会以貌取人，简单的说就是如果你看起来像个流浪汉，人们就会像对流浪汉那样对你。所以如果你想更性感的话就穿一些让你性感的衣服，如果你想看起来有权威就穿一些让你看上去有权威的衣服。要是你的衣柜已经有了想要的装扮就考虑下你个人角色的其他风格。要注意自然流露的举止，还有与人交流的眼神等等。不管你穿什么都要注重展现良好的品味。
朋友们，今天的女人会留意你穿着习惯的方方面面。比如有没有刮胡子、洗头发或者造型，穿着是否整洁，身上的气味好不好？所有这些小细节真的被大多女性所看重。女士们，今天的很多男性也看重同样的问题。他们希望约会上的你亮丽、清新、发型优美，穿着漂亮，气味清香。所以在你参加那种约会之前一定要抽点时间打扮一下。 在约会上展示一个注重仪表的你。
现在你不需要展示一个身材健硕的肌肉男，要做的是努力塑造一个健康的你，这不仅仅是指身体健康。体育锻炼不仅会让你看上去很好，还会使你感觉上也一样的好。锻炼过的腰条会为你增添活力而创造奇迹，帮你完成通宵达旦的约会。如果一个人的精神面貌良好，不仅是他们自身的状态良好，还展示了优越的条件，这象征着他会是个优秀的情人——不管是男人还是女人。
大家都喜欢那些与众不同的人，那些有特质的人。对自己做一个自我分析，你拥有什么（或哪些）能够使你与众不同的特质，一种......然后在这种特质上下功夫。比如在你开车时是否与众不同，或者你的首饰是否与众不同？一些像戴帽子那样的小细节也会让你拥有特质，使你与众不同。尝试着戴一顶斯泰森毡帽或者男式软呢帽，然后看看你得到了什么样的反响。
你的每个举止都必须显得自信。拥有自信是一个可以学习的东西。尽管现在并不十分自信，你可以装着自信。没错，就是要装着自信。要想显得自信，和人说话时要看着他的眼睛。呼吸自然，说话时要稳重。不要慌张。当别人说话时你要全神贯注。我知道这一开始会有点儿难，但是练习的多了你就会觉得很容易了。相信我。
所有人都喜欢被尊重被欣赏。如果在你的完美约会上他/她对你很重要，那么他/她对你说的话就很重要，你会很容易成为他们欣赏的风格。那就你需要多留意，确保你的约会让人愉快而满足。给予赞赏，发现被人忽略的东西而去赞赏它。在谈话中要认真倾听，尊重和你在一起的人，表达敬意，使他/她对自己感觉良好。
如果能够使别人放声大笑通常就能够使他的青睬。别太严肃，放松点儿，幽默点儿。放声大笑吧，让欢声笑语伴随你度过一个完美的约会。开心，愉快，热爱生活。
祝你好运！