要问二十一世纪谈点什么最难，答案应该就是：谈恋爱最难。我说的这个谈恋爱，是以结婚为目的的恋爱，是在交往中逐步加深感情的过程。
曾经一个男性朋友很“坦诚”的说：男人都想在年轻的时候好好玩玩，结婚的时候却都想找个大姑娘。可他们却忘记了，大姑娘都被你们“好好玩玩”了，结婚的时候还有大姑娘吗？然后一些男人便把责任推卸到女人身上，指责一些女人不自爱，在当今这个社会上，男人应该更加学会洁身自爱。
做爱对一些人来说简直就是容易不过的事情，甚至有些男人在做爱的时候连裤子都不脱，直接把拉链打开就可以办事了，这样的男人只是在找一种工具，而不是爱，爱是一种执行能力，不是拿来直接用的。这样的人只是在重复着人类最原始的本能，不能用对与错来形容，只是这样的人不配谈感情。他们自以为是的挥霍着精子，却不知道这样做也是挥霍自己的机会，当你不把爱情当成一回事的时候，爱情也不会瞧上你一眼的，世界上没有谁对不起谁，只有谁不懂得珍惜谁。
很多人都说，婚姻是爱情的坟墓，但是谁愿意死无葬身之地呢。如果你和男人相处了一段时间（一般在3-5年），而且两个人之间在感情和生活上也没有大的分歧，但是这个男人就是不愿意和你结婚，那么你就别幻想着他能娶你了，这个男人在潜意识里是觉得你还不是他的意中人，那就更别提未来的妻子了，他之所以要和女人保持着关系，而且嘴上还用两个人时间长了，感情深，分不开了……之类的借口来搪塞，实质是因为他目前还没有找到下一个可以让他继续享受的女人。如果你很不幸，你遇到了这样的男人，那还是请快点离开他吧，你对一个男人失去信心不要紧，重要的是，别让其他的男人对你失去兴趣。
其实看一个男人到底想不想和你结婚，一周左右的时候基本就能辨出一个端倪。
在恋爱的前期，男人一般会积极主动的约会你，更会在你面前展示自身的魅力，这个阶段姐妹们可以用眼睛欣赏他们，偶尔用微笑作为回应即可。接下来的阶段，男人会陪着你去一些你想去，或者是他想带你去的地方，这时候就要注意了，这是个经济蓬勃发展的社会，一切投资都是讲究回报的，爱情也不例外，投资爱情的回报就是结婚，当然了这是正常而且完美的结论，一些不正常而且看上去华丽的结论就是用所谓的爱情投资换取肉体上的满足。如果这个男人经常带你去娱乐场所，你们约会的内容基本上就是吃吃喝喝，歌舞升平的，那么还是迅速的离开这个男人吧，这样的男人心里最明白，如果投资一些其他的礼物，将来分手了，自己一点也捞不着，但是用在娱乐上的，自己也享受了，如果要计算损失的话，那么这个成本的投入就小了。再说了，一个男人怎么会希望自己未来的妻子经常出入这些娱乐场所呢，这岂不是给男人自己找了一个第二职业——邮递员，从上到下一身绿，外加一顶四季常青的绿帽子。
如果这个时候你还执迷不悟，还相信这个男人能给你带来幸福，那么接下来的事情就会让你痛彻心扉，男人会在他们觉得适当的时候，向你提出身体交流的要求，（有些时候这样的气氛是男人自己来制造，而女人就像演剧本一样情不自禁的入戏了）。因为这样的男人，在一开始的时候，目的就不是结婚，即使他们打着怎样为了爱情而奋不顾身的招牌，他们的内心里只想着和你上床，而且这种目的性很强，根本禁不住时间的考验，要知道正常男人每六秒钟就有一次性幻想，当然了也不是每个人男人都这样的，好男人是需要淬炼的，当他们真的玩累了，认识到一个家庭对自己的重要性的时候，他们就会主动的承担起婚姻和家庭的担子。这个过程有多长，男人自己也不知道，而女人却不能无休止的等下去，要知道等待和承诺都是要付出代价的。
如果眼前的这个男人还不能确定是你未来的丈夫，那么就别给他占有你身体的机会，要知道，有些伤害都是自找的，别给男人伤害你的权利，事后何必做那个受害者呢。得到同情不一定就是好事，别人的怜悯永远不能治愈伤口的疼痛。
译文:
Easy to make love, hard to go together.
If you ask what topic is the hardest one in 21 century, the answer is: Going together is the hardest topic. Here this going together is the going together whose ultimate aim is marrage, and it is the process of deepening the lover’s love during their contact.
Once a male friend has frankly said that: All men want to play games with girl when they are young, but they also want a virgin at their marry age. However, they forget that the virgins have been played by them already. Should be virgin there when you get married? Then, some men pushed the responsibility upon women, they criticized that women had no dignity. In nowadays society, men should be keep cleaner life than women.
Making love is the easiest thing to some people, even some guys don’t take off their pants when they are making love. Just opening zips to do that. Such men are just finding a tool but not love, love is an ability to execute, not a thing to use as you want. Such people are just repeating human’s ancientest instinct, and it can’t be judged whether right or not. Only can speak that this kind of men have no right to speak love. These smart-ass lavish thire sperms, but do not know this also lavish their opportunities! When you treat love as a game, love will see you as nothing. There’s no who should say sorry to whom in the world, but there should be who didn’t know to cherish whom.
Many people said that, marriage is the grave of love, however, who want to die with no grave? If you get long with a man for a long time ( ordinary 3 to 5 years), and you two have no big differences in love and life, but this guy does not want to get married, then you must stop to delusion that he will marry you, this man don’t think you are the one he likes under his subconsciousness, not to mention to be his wife. The only reason why he still keep in touch with you and make execuses with the long time you spend together, your deep love, and can’t be separated is that he hasn’t found the next woman who can let him enjoyed until now. If you are unfortunately met this kind of man, please leave him as soon as possible. It doesn’t matter that you lose confidence to man, more importance is that don’t let other men to lose interesting on you.
In fact, if you want to know whether a man want to marry you or not, one week’s time is enough to find out the answer.
In the early stage of love, generally, man will date you initiatively, moreover, he would to show his fascination in front of you, in this stage, you can appreciate him by your eyes, or maybe answer him with an smile. In the following stage, man will get you to some places which you want to go or maybe they want to get you to go, please pay attention to at this time, this is an economic explosion socity, each investment wants payback, even the love. And the payback for the investment of love is marriage, certainly it’s the conclusion of normal and perfect. But some unnormal and gorgeous conclusion is to use so-called love investment to change the satisfaction of sex. If the man often take you to some entertainment place, your dating content are almost eating, drinking, or dancing, then leave that man quickly! Such kind of man knows in his heart that if they invest his money on some other present, after you separating later, there’s no payback at all, but if he invest his money on entertainment, he also enjoyed it, so if count the lose, then this costs need less investment. What’s more, how would a man likes his future wife often to appear these places? Dosen’t it looks like the man find himself another job: postman, wearing a whole green suit, and a green cap!
If you still hold on obstinately errors at this time, and you still believe that the man can bring you happiness, then what’s happening next will hurts you deeply. Men will choose a proper time that they think is ok and ask to make an exchange with your body (some time men just make an atomosphere by themselves, and women just like actress who cannot hold on themselves to enter a play completely.) Because this kind of man does not want to get married to you at all at the beginning, though they show themselve how eager they want to devote themselves to love, the fact always that they only want to have sex with you. Moreover this purposiveness is very strong! It can’t stand the test of time. After all, the normal man has once sex fantasy per six seconds. Certainly, not all men like that, good men need refinement, after they are tired of playing games, and they find the importance of a family to themselves, they’ll go to hold the burden of a marriage and a family. How long this process will be? Men don’t know themselves, and women cannot wait all the time, after all, waiting and committing need to pay the price.
If you can not make sure the one who in front of you are your future husband, then don’t give him the chance to possess your body. We know, we just ask for some hurts by ourselves some time, so don’t give men the rights to hurt you, why should we be the victims after possessed by men? It’s not a good thing to get other’s sympathy, and other’s compassion will never cure the ache of the wound.