When a mother finally gives birth she has many decisions that she must decide, the big one, which weighs heavily on all moms is whether or not she should work. This is one of the hardest decisions a mom has to make for many reasons, but the number one is because she has this new baby and wants to spend all of her time with.
What options does a mom that has just had a baby have?- work at the office
- quit current job
- work part-time
- work from home
- stay at home
Reasons You Might Decide to:- Work at the office- There is a certain self-esteem that comes with working and making money, not to mention you’ll get to make adult friends and talk about something besides dirty diapers and cartoons. Believe it or not having deadlines and meeting them can make a person feel great about themselves. For those that were already in the workforce before having a child it may be harder to stop working, depending on how high up they’d made their career.
- Quitting Your Job- If you already know you aren’t going to go back, you should really let the boss know when you’ve decided this, that way they can find a replacement fast. Sometimes a mom decides she just can’t bare to be away from her new child. Other times a mom may look at how stressful her job is or has become and decide if it is really worth the effort. Always make sure you have a source of income that’ll cover your monthly expenses before doing this.
- Working part-time- A mom may decide to cut back on her hours that she currently has in order to spend quality time with her family. Or a mom may decide that she just has to get away from the house for a few hours a day for her own sanity, a part-time job is the perfect stepping stone. This way she’ll know if she wants to continue up the chain or not and she’ll get to meet others.
- work from home- It is sometimes possible to work from home with your current job, so you may want to look into this before you decide what you want to do with your career plans. Working from home can also be done from the internet, day care or a home business. The best part of this is a mom can do both, spend time with her children while earning money for the house.
- stay at home- Sometimes a mom just want to spend time with her children and play with them. She may and may not want to work, or isn’t completely sure yet. Staying home will allow her to find herself and get to know her children, course this also means she’ll be able to join the PTA, drive kids to about 4 different sporting events, dinner on the table by 5, playdates and so many others.
Cons:
- Your children are sure to hassle you, if not someone in the family will because you’d rather spend your time at work then with your child. Or you’ll be dealing with stress because you have to make deadlines and will miss your child’s first word, steps, etc.
- Quitting your job, are you nuts? Do you have enough money in the bank to do this? What do you do when you need the extra income for that hospital bill or dentists? Or you find out you were up for promotion coming soon.
- Driving back and forth may now become a hassle, plus what happens when you are already working a shift and someone doesn’t come in to relieve you. What about never seeing the spouse as your times aren’t coordinating with each other?
- Ummm, have you ever tried having a business conference online when you have sick children at home, or your child just wakes up for a nap? Now imagine deadlines.
- While you may enjoy being home, sometimes that is all you do, especially during the colder months. Are you ready to be a hermit? Deal with the gossipy neighbors and trivial issues that happen on the street?
Deciding what you want to do with your career is a big decision, make sure you really sit down and think about what you want to do. Make a pro and con list for yourself and decide what is best for you and for your family. This is one of those things you could possibly regret later on in life if you make the wrong decision. Good luck.
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母亲应该回去工作吗？（babylune）
就在一位母亲给与了一个婴儿生命同时，她还要作出很多她不得不做出的决定，其中对于所有母亲来说最举足轻重的就是她还要不要工作。很多理由都可以说明，这是母亲所做的最艰难的决策之一，但排在第一位的原因是她现在有了个小宝宝，她实在是想和宝宝整天呆在一起。 对于刚刚有了一个小宝宝的母亲来说，她们都有怎样的选择呢？
- 在办公室上班 -
辞掉现在的工作 -
做份兼职 - 在家工作
- 呆在家
你原则的依据：
-在办公室工作-在工作和赚钱时会自然而然的产生一种自尊心的满足感，更不用提你可以交到成年的朋友，还可以谈一些脏盘子和卡通片之外的东西。信不信由你，反正当有一条最后期限在步步紧逼的时候，他们真么自我感觉非常良好。对于那些在有宝宝之前已经有工作的母亲来说，让她们停止工作会更难，难度取决于她们已经在事业中达到的高度。
-辞职-如果你已经知道你不会再回去的话，你应该让你的老板知道你是什么时候做的决定，以便于他们及时的找一个能替代你的人。有时，一位母亲这样决定只是因为她们不能忍受和她们的新生儿分开。还有些时候，母亲会看看她的工作会有多少压力，或是将来会怎么样，然后再决定它是否值得她付出努力。在你做这项决定之前，一定要保证你有一份足够支付一个月花费的收入。
-做兼职-有时你可以把现在的工作带回家里去做，所以在你决定你下一步的职业规划之前，你可以先找一份这样的工作。家中完成的工作也可以在网络上完成，可以是日托方式，或在家办公。这种选择最好的地方就是母亲可以两者兼顾,为家赚钱的同时又可以和孩子呆在一起。
-呆在家中-有时母亲只想和她的孩子呆在一起，陪他玩。她可能想也可能不想工作，或是现在不能完全决定。呆在家里可以使她找到自我，并且是她亲近孩子，选择这条路也就意味着她将加入到客运大潮中，她要开车送孩子去参加4场不同的体育赛事，在5点之前吃晚饭，玩过家家，还有好多其他的。
反对意见：
-如果你因为要工作而不愿意和你的孩子在一起，你的孩子一定会和你争吵。要么你就会因为最后期限而充满压力，以至于错过你的孩子说的第一个字，走的第一步路，等等。
-辞掉工作，你是在胡说吗？你银行里有足够的钱来支持你怎么做吗？当你需要额外的钱来支付医院或是牙医的账单时你怎么办？万一你就要升职了呢？
-回到从前还是向前走现在已经引发了激烈的讨论，再加上你刚上完一轮班，但没人来接替你那将会发生什么？如果你因为作息时间和别人不一样而永远见不到你的丈夫会怎么样？
-当你享受着在家的时光时，有时可以这样说,那也就是你的全部了，尤其是在寒冷的几个月中。你做好当隐士的准备了吗？周旋在长舌的邻居和街道上发生的消失中间？
决定你未来的事业怎么走是一个十分重要的决定，你一定要坐下来，好好想一想你究竟想做什么。给自己做一个分析利弊的表格，然后再决定哪种选择对于你自己和你的家庭来说都是最好的。如果你做出了错误的决定，你将来会后悔的。祝你好运。