原文: Young Love: First Breakup

Middle school and even into high school is generally where those first heartbreaks in head over heels relationship end. Regardless of age, first love and then first rejection can be traumatic and a big blow to self-esteem.

We know life will go on and there will be others, but a kid doesn't have that perspective. The parent's job is to find ways to support your child and help her cope through that first big heartbreak.

Tips for parents on handling the first breakup

1. Listen and acknowledge. Be an attentive, sympathetic ear or shoulder.
   
2. Share your experiences to help normalize it. Give some perspective that's he's not alone: "I remember when I was 13 there was this guy I really liked..."
   
3. Fill her social calendar and boost her self-worth. Self-esteem may take a nose-dive.
   
4. Don't dismiss the pain by saying things like,"Don't worry, there will be other boys." Even though there will be, no rejected kid wants "others" at the moment.
   
5. Watch for red flags. Your kid is grieving so it's normal for her to cry, mope and withdraw. You should see a gradual return to her old self. If not, get help.
   
6. Caution against retaliation and baring her feelings online for the entire world to read.

译文: 稚爱：第一次失恋

中学甚至是高中一般都是人们遭受第一次失恋的地方。不管年龄有多大，第一次失恋都是件很痛苦的事情，自尊也会受到很大的伤害。

我们知道生活还会继续，还会有其他人在等待着我们，但是孩子们却不会这样想。父母所要做的就是要想方法支持你们的孩子，帮助他们度过这一段心碎的日子。

父母帮助孩子度过心碎日子的贴士：

1.   倾听和支持。 关心同情孩子。
2.    和孩子分享你的经历，帮助他们恢复正常状态。让他们知道他们并不孤单，和他们说：“我记得在我13岁的时候，我非常喜欢一名男生…”
3.     把她的社会行程排满，增强她的自尊心。这次失恋大大伤害了她的自尊心。
4. 不用担心，还会有其他人在等待着我们的。”说这样的话并不能消除他们的伤痛。虽然还是会有别人，但是被拒绝的孩子在这个时候都不会想要另一个的。 
5.   要注意危险信号。你的孩子正处在悲伤的时期，所以她哭、伤心、躲避都是很正常的。你应该让她自己慢慢恢复。如果不行的话，那就需要你们的帮助了。
6. 告诉孩子不能有报复的念头，不要把事情在网上公开让所有人都知道。