Anger is one of those things that truly prove to be a double edged sword. It can either work for you or against you, but most likely, due to its volatile nature, it’s most likely to work against you.
One thing is for sure though: just letting anger build up inside of you is not a good thing. The longer it stays in your system, the more it begins to “seep” into your mind, making it easier for you to make irrational decisions and do irrational things that you’ll soon later regret.
That being said, how do we deal with anger when we become inflamed with it?
With regard to dealing with anger in a healthy way, two schools of thought immediately present themselves. The first is to just release it. Shout at the top of your lungs, punch your pillow, throw something soft as hard as you can against the wall.
The second school of thought is to just breathe, calm down, get a grip on yourself, reduce the anger in your body, meditate, etc., but that’s really easier said than done, especially when you’re in the heat of the moment.
Which method is right? Which is wrong? Which is the best way?
Both schools of thought have their merits but the best is a combination of the two in the order that they were presented.
One of the greatest things about anger is that it proves to be one of the best types of energy that can literally propel you out of a rut and give you huge potential to change things in your life.
Most people get stuck and need that extra push to get themselves out of the hole of comfort they’ve dug for themselves and anger can prove to be the exact fuel they need to launch themselves out of that hole. Anger has led to the independence of the United States, social reform, justice for those who were gravely wronged, etc., but it’s important to note that anger must be channeled toward something constructive and positive. Otherwise, it can lead you down roads you don’t want to go and will regret.
The first school of thought simply involves releasing your anger without harming yourself or others. One of the best ways to do that is to release it is through physical exercise. Lift more than you ever lifted, run harder than you ever did, exercise longer than you ever did. Take your exercise to the next level.
What will happen when you do this is that your anger will slowly leave your system and because of the great workout that resulted with that newfound energy, you get energized again, but this time with “anger free” energy. It’s just the energy you normally get after you workout, but this time, you get more of it.
Some might recommend seeing how you can utilize your anger for good when you find yourself inflamed with it, but when you’re in the heat of the moment, you can’t think clearly enough to mentally see how you can leverage your anger to benefit yourself. You’re not in the right state of mind. Everything is skewed. It’s best to channel that raw energy anger initially provides into something positive that doesn’t require too much thought such as physical exercise.
Once the “top of the anger” energy has been transmuted, you’ll find yourself a little calmer, a little more rational than before and this is where you begin to start thinking how you can utilize the “bottom” portion of the energy of anger, the one that’s not so volatile that can cause you to do irrational things – the “calm” type of energy that still has that edge so to speak.
When you’re in this state, NOW you ask:
What can I do to make this anger work for me?
How can I channel my newfound energy into something positive?
How can I view what’s happening as an opportunity for self mastery and growth?
You need to ask yourself these questions to guide your mind toward positive and constructive roads and to channel that energy toward those roads.
The energy that you’re utilizing is not as “tainted” with destructive potential as the energy that you primarily feel when you’re in the heat of the moment. Use that newfound burst of energy toward something constructive, let it result in massive action being taken on your part, and ride the wave of momentum that comes as a result.
Anger has a way of giving us that boost that’s needed to get to the next level much like how a boost of energy is needed to get an electron into a higher orbit so be grateful for whatever event first inflamed you with such passionate anger because without it, you never would’ve had access to the energy it provided. The only catch is you have to know how to use it and how to maximize its potential once you have it.
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如何用健康的方式来处理愤怒情绪
愤怒属于真正被证明为双刃剑的事物之一。它既可为你所用，也会跟你对着干，但由于它本身不稳定的这一天性，最有可能发生的便是后者。
但有一点是可以肯定的：让愤怒在身体里逐渐积累起来并不是件好事。愤怒在生理体系中停留得越久，那它开始慢慢渗入你的思想的可能性就越大，它便会让你更容易做出一些不合理的决定和失去理性的事情，而在不久后你就会为此感到后悔。
既然如此，在面对愤怒防不胜防的攻击时我们应当如何处理呢？
关于如何用健康的方法对待愤怒情绪这一问题，两类思想派系立即表达了他们对此的想法。第一类认为就是要释放它。用尽可能大的声音叫出来，用力打枕头，用柔软的物品使劲砸向墙壁。
第二类思想派系则提出了利用呼吸让自己冷静，控制住你自己，减少体内的怒气，慢慢沉静下来等等，但说起来容易，做起来难，尤其是当人处在盛怒之下。
孰是孰非？哪一种方法又是最好的呢？
两类思想派系的想法都有各自的优点，但最好的方法是有序地将两者所提出的建议结合起来。
愤怒最强大的一点是被证明为最佳类型的能源之一，毫不夸张地说它能让你跳出常规并获得巨大的潜力来改变你生活中的一些事。
大多数人都会需要外力来帮助他们从自己建立的安逸窝中解脱出来，而愤怒就被证实是这项发射工作所需确切的燃料。愤怒为美国带来了独立，引发了社会的改革。为那些深感委屈的人们伸张正义等等，但要注意愤怒必须是针对一些有建设性和积极性的事情这一点是十分重要的。否则，它带领你踏上一条你并不想走的路并在事后感到后悔。
第一种思想派系仅仅包含了在不伤害自己和其他人的前提下将怒气释放出来。其中最好的一个方法就是通过体育运动来排解怒气。举比以前重的重量,跑比以前长的距离，锻炼比以前久的时间。让你的体育锻炼进入更高的水平。
当你在这么做时会发生的就是怒气渐渐离开你的身体，因为剧烈的运动会产生新能量，你再次获得能量，但这次的是“不含怒气”的能量。这只是在运动后所获得的普通能量,而这次你获得更多。
一些人可能会提议说当面对愤怒无能为力时如何将它运用到好的方面，但当处在盛怒之下时，你是无法足够清楚地去思考如何利用愤怒来来使自己受益。你的思想处于非正常状态。一切都是扭曲的。最好的办法是引导最初状态的愤怒能量到一些积极和无需多做考虑的事情上,如体育运动。
一旦“极愤怒”能量被转化后，你会发现你自己变得有点冷静,比之前更为理智，并且你也开始思考如何利用“剩余的”那一部分能量，有一部分并非很稳定的能量也会让你做出一些不合理的事情 － “平静”类的能量仍在边缘徘徊，那么就赶快做出行动。
当你处于这样一种状态时，此刻你就提问？
我能做些什么来让这种愤怒为我所用？
怎样将新生的能量引导到一些积极的事情上？
如何以作为自我掌握和自我成长的机会来看待所发生的事？
你需要问问自己这些问题来使你的思想向积极和有建设性的方向靠近并引导那些能量到这些方向上来。
你所利用的能量并不是当处在盛怒之下时你主要感受到的那些被潜在破坏力感染了的能量。在具有建设性的事情上使用新能源，让它成为大规模行动的一部分并以其变为潮流势头作为结束。
愤怒让我们有机会获得进入到下一阶段所需要的能量，就如电子进入更高轨道所需的能量一样，所以对这种在最初时会让你不知所措的愤怒能量要感到不胜感激，因为若没有它，你将永远接近不了它所能提供的能量。你唯一必须知道的一点就是如何利用它，并在拥有这种能量后如何最大限度地发挥其潜力。