打个碗其实并没什么，一年到头，谁不打上一两个碗呢，或许每年新生产的碗就是每年被打的碗的数量吧。在说这话前我也没 细考虑这个问题，现在细一想，一人一个，就这么打了，全中国一年得打多少碗啊，加一块一年得20来亿个吧。要是全世界呢？得百十来亿个吧。先不说多少钱，工人们辛辛苦苦生产出来，就这么一声脆响之后就没了，多可惜啊。要说到钱，得几百个亿吧，用来求助失学儿童相信就没失学儿童了吧？用来救济困难户，能买上亿套的棉衣棉被吧？可这“啪”的一响后，不光浪费了，还要产生多少垃圾啊，一个碗算半斤，也得50亿斤吧，够一个载重5吨的车拉500000趟了，得费多少人力，耗多少汽油，占多少土地啊。有点发感慨了，可事情往往就是这样，怕认真，一认真，一计算，还真是挺吓人的。
还是说说昨天打碗的事吧。先声明一点，打那个碗以前我可没想到这么多，这些完全是在写这篇文章时想到的。昨天那个碗的牺牲，完全是为了我的女儿。我女儿今年6岁多了，属于最普通的那种孩子，好动，注意力不集中，动作拖拉，做事不认真等小孩子有的毛病差不多她都有。当然，我女儿也有和别的孩子不太一样的地方，那就是知识面比较宽，从两岁半开始使用电脑，到现在四年多了，除了没练习打字外，常用的操作比一般不太懂电脑的成人要强的多。这几年她玩过的益智游戏已经数不胜数了，如洪恩gogo看世界，小不点乐园，小不点快乐上小学，神童训练营等等。看过的动画也算多，刚开始看米老鼠、舒克贝塔什么的，现在看三字经，中华勤学故事，天方夜谭等等。小家伙用电脑的过程中真没少学到东西。也许就是因为接触电脑太多，管理太松散的原故，女儿才养成了一些不太好的习惯，如粗心就是很大的一个缺点。为了改正这些缺点，全面提高孩子的综合素质，我们制定实施了快乐积分成长方案，其中很重要的一个内容，就是要孩子多做家务劳动。现在我女儿就把刷锅洗碗的事承包了，摔碗的事也就是因为她刷碗引起的。
昨天中午吃完饭，女儿很痛快把把桌子收拾了，把碗刷了。检查时，我发现一个问题，她把口径大小相同的碗扣在了盘子上，然后又在碗上放了别的碗。这可是个危险动作，大家都知道磁器是很滑的，只要稍微一碰，结果肯定就是哗啦啦。赶紧把孩子叫过来，一边表扬碗刷的又干净又快，一边指出她放碗的错误，告诉他一旦碰翻了，不但碗会摔碎，刷碗的辛苦也就白费了。女儿倒是很明白事理的，赶紧把危险解除了，并承诺下次不再犯同样的错误。可到了晚上，类似的错误又发生了，她把一个碗放在了杯子上，而且就在洗碗池靠外的一边，只要碰到，必摔无疑。这时女儿叫我来帮忙洗抹布，正好我看到了这个情况。感觉再次说教是不会起什么作用的，还是让孩子看看实际效果好的多。于是，我装作不小心，把杯子碰翻了。结果不用我说了，看着满地的碎片，女儿在那傻了眼，眼泪就要出来了。我轻声的问她，知道为什么碗会摔了吗？她说知道，并简单分析了碗被摔的原因。我问她，以后知道该怎么做吗？她说知道，以后我把碗放橱柜里侧，再不放到不稳当的东西上面了。知道错了，而且知道怎么改正，当然是个聪明的孩子，也是个懂事的孩子。
就摔碗这件事而言，应该讲是孩子犯了错，但本质上她并不知道自己的行为已经构成了错误，因为她不清楚后果。因此我没批评她，更没跟她发火，而是给她演示了错误发生的过程，在她认识到自己的错误后还表扬了她，相信这次摔了一个碗，今后她一生很少再有碗受难。
有一点我觉得需要做一个温馨提示：如果跟她发火，也许改正的效果会更好些，但难免造成对她的伤害，而这种伤害也许是一辈子一个碗都不摔也弥补不了的。
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Yesterday We Broke a Bowl – Talking About Parenting
Yesterday We Broke a Bowl – Talking About Parenting
It doesn’t matter to break one or two bowls, year in and year out, everybody may do it, and may be the amount of new bowls made annually is equivalent to those produced in one year. Saying this rashly and a second thought comes, one man breaks one bowl, in this rate, how many bowls will be broken a year? It will total up to 2 billion. Taking the entire world to considerate, it will be several billions more. Needless to mention how much it costs first, bowls are made by people through hard work, what a pity to have it crashed, shattered and disappeared. As money are concerned, it might cost tens of billions more, and if the money is given to children who are unable to go to school, I believe there will be no more any of them. If the money is used as relief to the needed, it can buy hundreds of millions cotton coats or quilts. This “popping” sounds, then money wasted, garbage created. A bowl may weigh about 250 gram, and it totals 2.5 billion kilogram and enough for a 5- ton truck to carry it 500,000 times to somewhere, and this cost much manpower, gasoline and land. I sigh with emotion. Things always go in this way, careful calculation brings about daunting imagery which blows away the airy mood.
Let me tell you the story happened yesterday about the broken bowl. I should make this clear that I hadn’t thought much about it before the bowl was broken. These thoughts come to me when I set my pen to paper. The bowl sacrificed yesterday is for my daughter’s sake. She is an average, six years old girl, and has nearly all the common weaknesses of kids’, such as active, absent-minded, slow responsive and careless. Of course, my daughter has something different from other children her age. She has a relatively wider knowledge base. She started to use computer when she was two and a half years old and has been with it for over 4 years. Except for typing, she is better than some adults at playing computer. She has played countless computer games over the past years, such as Human Gogo, Little Kid’s Paradise, Happy Primary School, Child Prodigy Training Camp, etc. She has watched many cartoons, beginning with Mickey Mouse, Shukebeida, and now she watches The Three Character Classic, Stories on Chinese Celebrities Who Learn Diligently and Arabian Nights. The little girl learns much in the process, but she also developed some bad habits for being with computer too much time and loosed parenting, being careless is a major shortcomings. To straighten her out and to improve her overall quality, we formulate and practice a happy growth program which includes that she should do more housework. Now, my daughter takes on the job to brush pan and wash dishes, and when she washed dishes yesterday, the bowl dropped and the story went on.
After we had lunch yesterday, my daughter swiftly cleaned the table, and washed the dishes. I checked and found a problem that she placed several bowls, which were of the same caliber, upside down on a plate, with other bowls over them. This was dangerous because, you know, the ceramics are of very slippery surface and easy to crash by a slight push. I hastily called her, giving praise for the good job she had done, while pointing out her error, telling her that if the bowls were moved, they would be broken and her hard work would be in vain. She knew her mistake and quickly defused the hazard, promising not to make such mistake again. In the evening, however, similar mistake occurred. She put a bowl over a cup which is on the edge of the sink, and if it was touched, it was sure to drop. Just then, she asked me for help to wash the rag, I went there and glimpse the situation. Considering that there will not be much help to make lecture again, and give her a lesson might impress her more, I feigned a carelessness and smashed the cup. Needless to say the result, seeing the debris on the ground, she nearly burst into tears and stayed there motionless for a while. In a soft voice, I asked her why it dropped. She said that she knew it and told me why. I asked her how to do afterward. She replied that she would place them in the cabinet and never put them on unstable stuff. Admitting the fault, and knowing how to correct it, she is indeed a smart and thoughtful child.
In this case, the child makes a mistake, but she doesn’t aware of it and can not foresee the consequences. Therefore, I don’t scold her, nor get angry with her, instead I demonstrate the error. When she realizes her mistake, I praise her in believe that few bowls will be damaged by her henceforth.
I’d like to offer a warm tip here: If I get angry with her, the effect may be better, but this may cause damage to her that she will never get over it even without another broken bowl in her future.