调情十技

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原文: 10 Flirting Techniques

  1. Take a Minute

    You have around one minute to connect with a stranger. Within this time you have three priorities to attend to. The first is your body language - over 50% of your communication comes from this. The second is the way you talk and only finally comes the content of what you say.
  2. Blink Away

    Blinking is a flirtatious act. You'll keep the attention of the other person if you blink a little more. Be careful of not blinking because if you're out to flirt a concentrated gaze can be interpreted as a stare-threat which can cause discomfort.
  3. Do as They Do

    This is a technique called mirroring and it's something you will see with couples, friends and even work colleagues. Mirroring literally involves positioning your body in the same or similar fashion to the person you are with. If they sip their coffee, you sip yours, and so on.
  4. Show It In Your Face

    Your face is your main source of non-verbal communication so use it to your advantage. One example is the eyebrow flash. Ever notice what happens to eyebrows when people meet? They raise the eyebrows - sometimes it's quick and subtle but it happens. Anthropologists believe this is a link to our animal past and is similar to gestures used by monkeys and the great apes. The eyebrow flash says, "I"m your friend'. Extend the eyebrow flash for an extra second or so and you're sending a subtle sexual signal.
  5. It's All In The Eyes

    Be careful how you use your gaze. People we don't know often feel uncomfortable if the gaze is too extensive. Keep your gaze around the face and especially the eyes, nose and mouth. Try giving a dreamy look at their mouth while they are talking and then roll up to the eyes - so very flirty!
  6. What's The Point of Make Up?

    You may say it's to make you look and feel better and you're right, but it's also an enhancement of your sexuality. A man or woman looks for these features anyway (eyes, lips, facial symmetry) but cosmetics provide what psychologists call a super-sign stimulus and if you use this with tones that suit you, the effect can be dramatic.
  7. Face to Face

    People who fancy you will tend to want to look at you face to face. You can encourage the process even if you are sitting next to the person. If you ask questions and tip your head to the side you are sending out signals that you're interested.
  8. Tease It

    Teasing your hair is yet another signal. Don't overdo it because it might look like you're nervous and this can make the other person nervous.
  9. Don't Touch

    Don't touch your face as this usually means you're tired or anxious or irritated
  10. Remember The Number Four Rule

    For example, looking away, folded arms, tight lips and frowning means no! Treat flirting in the same way, if you see four flirt signals then you are making a good impression. So tread carefully, go steady, and don't assume. There will come a point when you'll be as sure as you can be and the rest is up to you. 

译文: 调情十技

 
抓住一分钟
 
      你有差不多一分钟的时间和一个陌生人交流。在这点时间里,你有三个要点要注意。首先是你的肢体语言——超过50%的沟通来自于此。其次是你说话的方式,最后才是你说些什么。
 
眨眼走开
 
      眨眼是调情的举动。若是你稍稍眨眼眨的频繁些你会吸引他人的注意力。注意了,如果你企图和一个目不转睛的人调情的时候不要眨眼,否则可能被误解为凝视恐惧症,那将会引起不适。
 
他们做啥,你做啥
 
      这个技巧也被叫做镜子技巧。这是你会在恋人,朋友,甚至是同事间所看到的。镜子技巧字面说来就是让你自己和同你在一起的人保持同样或相似的格调。若是他们喝咖啡,你也喝你的,诸如此类。
 
把它摆在脸上
 
      脸是你的非言语性沟通的主要来源,所以你要利用它。举个例子,眉毛的闪动。有没有注意过当人们见面是眉毛怎么样了?他们挑起眉毛——有时这个动作快速细微但是绝对是有的。人类学家相信这和我们过去是动物有关,并且和猴子,大猩猩的姿态相似。眉毛闪动意味着,“我是你的朋友。”眉毛动的再久点,你就是在发送一个微妙的性信号。
 
一切尽在眼中
 
      小心使用你的凝视。我们不认识的人通常对过长的凝视感到不舒服。让你的目光围绕着脸,特别是眼睛,鼻子和嘴。在他们说话的时候,试图表现出梦幻的表情看他们的嘴巴在缓缓上升到他们的眼睛——真的非常有调情的意味!
 
化妆的要点?
 
      你可能会说,化妆让你看起来和感觉上更好,你说的没错,但它也是增加你性感魅力的武器。一个男人或女人总之期待那样的面容(眼睛,嘴唇,面部的匀称)但是化妆品是心理学家所说的超大码的刺激品,如果你用了适合你的,效果绝对夺目。
 
面对面
 
      喜欢你的人会想面对面的看着你。即使你坐在这个人的旁边你也可以鼓励这个步骤。若是你问问题且向那边侧首,你就是在发送你感兴趣的信号。
 
戏弄它
 
      玩玩你的头发也是另一个信号。不要做的过火了,因为那样可能让你看起来紧张,也让另一个人感到紧张。
 
不要触摸
 
      不要摸你的脸,这样通常意味着你疲惫或是焦虑或是恼怒。
 
记住四号规则
 
      举个例子,看别处,双臂交叉,双唇紧闭和皱眉都意味着不!用同样的方式来对待调情,若是你看到四个调情信号,然后你就取得了好的印象。所以要小心对待,保持沉着,不要猜忌。然后就会到来一个时候你你确定你可以,剩下的就取决于你了。