有效解决冲突的五种办法

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原文: Top Five Ways to Deal with Conflict

    Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of an intimate relationship. Here are five ways to deal with it effectively.

  1. The most important thing is to choose a time when tempers have cooled and you are both feeling more relaxed.
  2. Even if you don't always agree, try to show some appreciation for each other's efforts to come to some agreement.
  3. Own and express your emotions and opinions. You must not be too critical of each other but it is vital that you don't skirt the issue. You both need to know where you stand.
  4. Let the other person speak. As obvious as it sounds, this rarely happens. If someone says something you don't like, instead of jumping in to defend yourself, it is far more constructive to hear the person out and give a calm and well thought out response.
  5. Above all, always keep your communications positive and light. If you bring each other down you will never resolve anything.

译文: 有效解决冲突的五种办法

在我们的私交关系中,冲突自然而然且必不可少。以下是五种有效解决冲突的方式。

最重要的是要选对时间,要在情绪冷静下来,且双方都感到更加放松的时候。
 
即使你不是一直同意,试着对彼此为达成某种共识所作的努力表示感谢。
 
要有自己的情绪和观点,并把它表达出来。你们不能对彼此太过苛责,但是你也不能回避这件事,这一点很重要。你们都需要知道自己的立场。
 
让对方说话。这听起来显而易见,但却很少发生。如果有人说了你不喜欢的话,你不必马上跳出来为自己辩护,听听对方说些什么,并冷静、仔细的想一想再做答复,这更有建设性。
 
综上所述,应该一直保持积极且轻松的沟通。如果你们彼此互相攻击,那么你们什么事都解决不了。