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Share Proposal of Bringing up Little Man with Everybody
There are many this kind of boys beside us, they speak in sweet voice, do things mincingly, cry effeminately for a little touch. Boys' tenaciousness, braveness and generous are all gone.
So how to bring up a little man?
Firstly, direct and foster a boy according to boy's personality. Activeness, naughty, curiosity, even wildness are all boys' nature. Parents and teachers should impove the nature and never suppress the development of personality. Boys always fight in kindergartens, teachers should not blame them for that, but tolerate them properly. Otherwise they will be timider and timider. A more important thing is to direct boys to be protectors of girls, give them sense of responsibility.
Secondly, boys should take part in outdoor and group activity more.
In today's society, most children are only child, they are always spoiled at home. Children have strong awareness since they are 1 year and a half. The careness and consideration from parents and grandparents will form their mind-set of luxury and privilege, and virtually enhance their denpendence. Boys should play with girls more and have a space to be wild. At the same time, parents should take them to parks and play some adventurous and secure games. This is helpful to cultivate strong character and venturous spirit.
Thirdly, prevent children from being arbitrary.
Some family almost help children do everything. In these family, children are aware that they are owners instinctively. In this way, children will be selfish and stingy, boys will be arbitrary. Please let children play with toys together, share snack with everybody consciously, eat the food they deserved. From this way, you can reduce his superiority complex as much as possible, let him know that he is just one of the family. This work will redound to build up boy's generous character.
Smart mum's "Man creating proposal"
Inbred temperament is fundamental factor of being a man, but acquired creation is more important. I started to cultivate my son's behavior as a man consciously when he was 2 years old.
1. Make opportunity for him to act the role of protector
Everyday, I got home from work and was worn to go to bed, but I still need to deal with my son's "harassment". I knew that it was not realistic to let him understand my hardship. So, I said "Mum is very tired, could you lend me you shoulders to lean?". My son didn't get what I mean, but he was insterested. Then he tilted his head, setting his little shoulder to me and asked seriously "Mum, you are not tired as if lean your head on my shoulders, aren't you?" I crouched down, leaned my head on his shoulder and said appreciatively,"No! My son is a real man. He will protect his mum when he is grown up."
My son grinned. From that time on, my son often requires to be my protector, very glamorous!
2. Can be unhappy but can't lose his temper
Some children will throw a conniption or lose their temper when they are unhappy. If they cultivate this habit, they will not control their behavior when they meet something. I told my son, "When you meet some unhappy things, you can tell it, but never lose your temper." But teaching him by words is not enough, I also need to teach him by personal example. So, I try not to lose my temper in front of my son. If I am in a bad mood, I will try to tell my son in the way of adults speaking, "I feel a bit upset now, so I don't want to talking, can I?" Son will answer me like a adult, "Yes, you can." In this way, I will calm down slowly, release my upset. The bad mood will not infect my son. Hasing a example as me, my son rarely lose his temper.
3. Teach him to be patient
Many children get everything he want from parents. I won't let my boy have this bad habit. Someday, he was playing outside and wanted to drink something. I told him that we needed to walk a little way and buy drink in the store. He refused to walk and said that he was thirsty and needed to drink now. I told him calmly, "Nothing can be gotten as soon as you want it. If you can get water now, please get it by yourself, if not, please be patient and wait." My son looked around and said nothing. I knew just tell him facts and reasons is not enough. Then I tried to distract him from thirstiness. "Mum is thirsty too. What do you want to drink when you arrive the store?" I asked. After the question, my son started to discuss what to drink and foget the thirstiness.
4.Bear good or bad consequence by himself
People learned to bear consequence from childhood will have sence of responsibility when they are grown up. I let my son to learn this consciously from little things. For example, if my son gets angry and throws his book on the floor, I never pick it up for him and won't let my family to do this. I don't mind laying the book on the floor. When he asks me to tell a story, I will say:" Didn't you throw your book? How can I tell a story without a book?" My son will get worried and pick up the book by himself. Since then, he knows throwing books cause to can't listening stories and pick up books by himself. He never throws his books.
Little tips: Sevral expression can be used in "Man creating proposal":
Helpless. Pretend to need son's help.
Have nothing to do with me. Let him know you can't do everything for him.
Keep silence. You can keep silence when you are unhappy, but can't lose your temper.
Laugh out. When you are happy, please laugh out like a child, always remain your childishness.