Children learn to impersonate others at a very young age. It’s how they suss out how to behave, care for themselves, cultivate new skills, and communicate with others. From their earliest moments they study you closely and set their own deeds and opinions after yours. Your standards become abiding representations, which will set their stance and demeanour for the rest of their life.
It’s very important to be conscientious, consistent and caring with your child. And this also applies to the relationship you have with your spouse, your parents, and other family members and friends that are also a part of your son or daughter’s life. Own up to errors when you make them, and communicate openly and honestly with all family members.
It’s also very important to look after yourself. When we’re concentrating on what’s best for our child it’s natural to overlook our own needs. Your child and your family are depending on you both emotionally and physically, so it’s important that you teach your child by example that looking after yourself helps you to take care of them and the rest of your family. This shows your child that not only do you love them and the rest of the family, but you love yourself as well. This is a key action in teaching your child about self pride. This can involve getting a sitter and treating yourself to say a movie and dinner out, or doing some favorite activity on your own. This demonstrates to your child that you are not merely their parent, but a an individual with your needs and interests. It also gives them an occasion to show you how well they can manage without you with them for a short time.
It’s also imperative to nurture your relationship with your spouse. Let your child see you communicate in a positive and healthy manner with each other, and demonstrate love and affection for each other so your child can begin to appreciate from an early age what a healthy marriage should be like.
You’ll soon find your child mirroring many of their actions after your own. Make sure that what you say and do around your child will help encourage a strong sense of security and self confidence.
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家长的言行是孩子的榜样
孩子们从很小的时候开始就学者模仿他人。这包括他们是如何弄明白怎样去表现，怎样去照顾自己，怎样去培养新技能以及怎样去和他人交流。从一开始，他们就跟着你们大人学，并且根据你的所作所为来决定自己的行为和想法。你的那些标准成了长久不变的规范，并且决定了他们今后生活的定位以及行为举止。
对你的孩子充满责任心，并且始终如一，关爱他们是很重要的。同样，在你处理你和你的配偶、父母以及其他家庭成员或者朋友之间的关系时，这个也同样适用，因为这些人同样也是你孩子生活中的一部分。当你自己犯了错误的时候，要坦白的承认，并且和所有的家庭成员进行开诚布公地交流。
好好照顾你自己也同样重要。当你一心关注于什么东西对孩子最好的同时，也该自然而然地为自己的需要考虑一下。你的孩子和家庭其他成员不仅在物质上仰仗你，他们在精神上也依赖你。所以你应该树立榜样，教导你的孩子，让他们明白照顾你自己能够让你更好地关心他们和其他家庭成员。这不仅让你的孩子懂得你在爱他们和其他家人的同时，也爱着你自己。这个是让你孩子学会为自己感到骄傲的关键做法之一。要做到这个，你可以请个保姆，或者出去看场电影或是下趟馆子来作为对自己的奖励，当然也可以作些其他你非常喜欢的活动。这个向你孩子显示了，你不仅仅是他们的家长，更是一个有着自己的需求和兴趣的个体。与此同时，这也为他们创造了一个时机，可以向你证明在一段时间里，即便没有你在他们左右，他们照样可以做的很好。
处理好你和你的配偶之间的关系也是势在必行的。让你的孩子看到，你正在用积极向上的方式和他人进行交流，并且相互表达爱和关心，以便让你的孩子能够在很小的时候就开始理解怎样才是健康美满的婚姻。
很快你就会发现你的孩子在不断地完全照搬你的所作所为。所以，你要确保你在孩子面前的一言一行都能够让他们获取安全感和自信。