I never had any real role models growing up, female or male. Consequently, when others discuss how much they rely on their role models, I feel rather out-of-the-loop.
I think that having a role model would have been a very good thing for me, especially during that strange period between ages 13 and 14 when Ana befriended me (or so I thought.) Perhaps having someone to look up to would have made it less appealing to succumb to the temptation of THIN.
Even today, years later, I wish I had a role model.
Don’t get me wrong… I have many women in my life who are strong and whom I admire — Susan, Sarah, Tess, Crista and others. They are outstanding persons who definitely motivate me to be the best I can. However, I see them as peers, not as role models, per se. Though I look to them for advice, I don’t use them as a way to gauge who I want to be as a person, exactly.
Of course, there could be a downside to having a role model. I imagine some role models can negatively impact those who look up to them, especially if the role models are engaging in destructive behaviors (e.g., EDs, drug and alcohol abuse, illegal activities, promiscuity.)
My question today is whether you had or have a role model? If so, was/is the experience positive and uplifting?
译文:
对行为榜样作用的思考
在我成长的过程中，我从未有过任何行为榜样，不论男或女。结果，当其他人在谈论他们是如何如何依赖行为榜样时，我感觉自己像是个圈外人。
我想如果我有行为榜样，对我来说会是件好事，尤其是在我十三四岁时受到Ana帮助的奇特阶段（我想大概时这样。）也许把某些人作为榜样来看待，可能会让我们想要屈从于“瘦”的这种诱惑减少。
即使现在，几年后，我都希望能有个人作为我的行为榜样。
不要误解我的意思……在我生活中其实有许多强悍，令我敬佩的女性——Susan啦,Sarah啦,Tess啦,Crista啦等等。他们都出色到让我有动力使自己最好。然而就他们本身来说，我只是把他们看作同辈人，而不是行为榜样。虽然我也会询问他们建议，但我并不会从他们身上来估计自己究竟想成为怎样的人。
当然，行为榜样也会有低谷期。我能想象有些人会受到行为榜样的负面影响，尤其当榜样人作出一些破坏性行为时。（例如：EDs滥用毒品和酒精，涉及非法活动，私生活不检点。）
我今天的问题是：你是否也有行为榜样？如果有，他们是否曾经或正在对你起到积极提高的作用？