This is the best email you could ever send someone who has recently experienced a miscarriage, pregnancy loss, or simply a rotten test result. This made me laugh, smile, cry, and most importantly, know that this friend meant every single word. It is simple, nonjudgmental, and unconditionally loving - exactly what one grieving needs.
I hope you never have an occasion to help a friend through grief, but if you do, feel free to shamelessly steal this message and use it.
Cocktails
Coffees
Puffs (with lotion)
Pedicure
Delicious foods
Cushy shoulders
Dishes to smash
New shoes
Chocolates
Really loud music
Whatever you need I will make happen.
You’re totally awesome and I love you.
I love you too, Melis. Thanks to all of you who have left comments, emails and calls. We are both feeling much better today. Less fatalistic. More optimistic. It’s not the end of the road just yet.
译文:
如何帮助朋友克服流产带来的痛苦（怀孕手记）
流产，糟糕的检查结果。如果你的朋友不幸遇到这些打击，以下这封邮件是你对她表达安慰与鼓励的首选。 我看了之后，觉得百感交集，又想哭又想笑，但我知道最重要的是它让我看到了那个朋友的良苦用心。这封信内容读起来很简洁，很理性，让我真真切切地感到朋友无条件的爱——非常适合让悲伤的人们用来疗伤。
我当然希望你在生活中永远都用不上这信，但是万一你的朋友真的碰到了这种情况，这封邮件，你就大胆放心地拿去用吧。
鸡尾酒
咖啡
洁面纸（带有护肤乳液的那种）
美甲
美味的食物
让你倚靠的肩膀
让你砸碎发泄的盘子
新鞋子
巧克力
非常非常吵闹的音乐
以上所有，无论你需要哪样，我都会为你做到。
你真的无可挑剔，我为你感到自豪，爱你！
我也很爱你，麦丽。我想感谢所有关心我，给我留言，打电话或发邮件的朋友们。我和丈夫现在好多了，而且变的乐观了，不再像以前那样悲观地认为一切都是宿命。因为我们知道，虽然这次没有成功，我们还是有机会的。