Even if you are naturally shy, these three tricks will help you to quickly build a new social circle in any new city.
1. Take Pictures
One of the great things about taking pictures at an event or party is that it gives you an excuse to get in touch with the person later. Everybody loves seeing pictures of themselves, and it’s very easy after taking a picture to say “Are you on Facebook?” or “If you’d like I can email it to you.”
This can be the seed that leads to new connections. The next time you hear about a fun event email your new contacts to let them know about it.
2. Eat Alone In Public
If you don’t know anyone in a new city, it can be tempting to order take-out and retreat back to your lonely apartment or hotel room. Instead, try eating by yourself in public as often as possible.
You might feel self-conscious eating by yourself but it has an important benefit: you are much easier to approach when you are alone. People may be afraid of interrupting you or being rude if you are in a conversation with someone else.
Bring a book or newspaper to read (this will make you feel less self conscious). Plus, having an interesting book with you will give others an excuse to start a conversation if they’ve read it.
3. Join A Class, Sports Team, Or Club
Yoga, salsa dancing, volleyball, jogging, Toastmasters (a public speaking club), a class for work, martial arts, etc. Take up a new hobby or continue an old one!
These are all great places to meet new people, primarily because you will be forced to see the same people over and over again in the class. You will automatically make friends with them if you have a common interest and are forced to see each other again.
If you’re having troubling thinking of a good one to join, try browsing the many clubs on MeetUp.com or the events on CraigsList.com
Bonus Tips:
- In the beginning, never turn down an invitation from someone, even if it’s something you wouldn’t normally do.
- Email your new friends with fun things to do instead of always asking what their plans are. If they have a better plan you can always still drop yours and join them. This will help establish you as someone who is contributing value instead of just taking it (people want this in a friend).
- Don’t let little things in life piss you off or be a negative person. Others won’t want to be around you!
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在新的城市如何交到一群朋友
即使你天生害羞，这三个技巧也能帮助你在任何一个新的城市迅速建立一个新的社交圈。
1. 拍照
在某个场合上或聚会中拍照，这样做的一个好处就是给你一个借口，让你可以事后联系人。每个人都喜欢看到自己的相片。拍照后也比较容易开口说：“你在影集里吗？”或者“如果你想要我可以通过邮件发给你。”
这可以成为新的联系的开端。下次你听到一件有趣的事情，发邮件给你的新朋友，让他们知道。
2. 在公共场合吃东西
如果你在新的城市不认识任何人，你有可能会打算订一份外卖回到你孤独的公寓或旅馆房间。相反，要尝试尽可能多地在公共场所吃东西。
自己吃东西你可能会觉得不自在，但这样做有一个重要的好处：你独处时，别人才能更容易接触你。如果你正与别人对话，人们会怕打断你或显得粗鲁。
带一本书或一份报纸去看（这会让你感觉自然一点）。此外，随身带一本有趣的书能给别人创造机会与你开始对话——如果他们读过的话。
3. 加入某个班级，体育队或俱乐部
瑜伽，萨尔萨舞，排球，慢跑，主持人（一个公开演讲俱乐部),职业培训班，武术班等等。培养一种新的爱好或继续以前的爱好。
以上都是些遇见新人的好地方，主要是因为你将不得不在班上看到相同的人一遍又一遍。如果你们有共同的兴趣而且被迫再次见面，你将自动与他们交上朋友。
如果你发现对加入一个好的团队感觉有麻烦的话，试着浏览一下 MeetUp.com 上的众多俱乐部或 CraigsList.com上的事件。
额外技巧：
- 一开始，不要拒绝别人的邀请，即使那是些你通常不会做的事情。
- 发邮件给你的新接触的人告诉他们一些可做的有趣的事情而不总是询问他们的计划是什么。如果他们有一个更好的计划，你可以随时停下自己的事情而加入到他们的行列中去。这样做帮助你树立一个形象：你是一个为增加友谊价值的人而不仅是单纯保持友谊的人。（人们在朋友有身上想找到这一点）
- Don’t let不要小事情让你厌烦 或成为一个消极的人。别人将不愿待在你身边。
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