Children are the leaders of the future. So how do you give your child a real chance to shine, with positive parenting techniques and paying attention to the following ten steps, anyone can be successful at parenting.
1. Positive communication is key to making sure your child’s self esteem is high. You need to spend quality time with your child and really listen to what they are telling you. Interact with them in a way they will understand and make sure you focus your attention fully on them for periods throughout the day. Focus on the positives and try to ignore communication if it is negative. If the child does get attention for negative behaviour, all you are doing is reinforcing the negative behaviour.
2. If you promise your child you will take them to the shop or to the park, make sure that you do. You want your child to value promises that are made, so following through with your promises is vital. The same goes for discipline. If you say to your child that you will take away a certain toy or luxury if they misbehave, then make sure you do. You are making a rod for your own back if you keep letting the little things go, the child will soon learn you will not do as you say and take full advantage of this.
3. Involve your child in decisions around the house or what to make for dinner. Let them help you do the shopping by giving them a list of their own to find certain vegetables and the such like. They will feel like a real member of the household and feel important and empowered. This is essential in a healthy upbringing. Not only that but it can be educational as well as teaching them important life skills.
4. As long as the child is not in a potentially dangerous situation, let them learn the value of consequences. Children learn so many vital skills through the act of consequences, so sometimes instead of intervening in a certain circumstance allow the child to do what it is they were doing and let them see the consequence first hand.
5. Show logic and consequence to your child when telling them off. If they break something and you tell them off right away, in a few days time they will have often forgot what it was they did in the first place. Instead, try taking so much money off their pocket money or allowance and show them the long term consequences of such things. Or if they break one of their own toys through naughty behaviour (not an accident) and they want it replacing, show them how to save up money to replace it rather than running out to the shops to buy a new one.
6. If your child is throwing a tantrum or showing signs of naughty behaviour, don’t get into a shouting match with them. Leave the room and ask them to come into that room when they are ready to talk properly.
7. Don’t tell your child they are being bad. Explain that it is their behaviour that is naughty not them.
8. Try not to frighten your child by shouting at them to do something, tell them calmly what you want from them and help them if necessary. Don’t motivate your child to do something through fear and intimidation.
9. Think about how you want your child to be and parent in the way that influences this behaviour. If you want your child to be polite and respectful, then show in this in everyday life to people around you. Children learn through imitation.
10. Be yourself and love your child and show it and tell them everyday!
译文:
成功育儿的十个步骤
孩子是未来的领导者。所以你如何运用有益的育儿技巧，给与孩子可以发光的机会。请注意以下十个步骤，任何人都可以成功的育儿。
1。积极的沟通是确保孩子有高度自信的关键。你需要认真地花时间和孩子呆在一起，真正的倾听他们诉说。以他们能理解的方式和他们互动，一整天中确保你有一定的时间可以把注意力完全的放在孩子身上。关注他们好的一面，如果有不好的一面努力避免提及。如果孩子注意到他不好的行为，那你所做的是在助长这个不良行为。
2. 如果你向孩子许诺要带他们去商店或公园，一定要做到。你想让孩子一诺千金，那你自己首先要做到。同理，如果你告诉孩子你要因为他行为不端而没收他某个玩具或奢侈品，要确保你能做到。如果在这些小事上你不能以身作则，孩子很快就知道你不会说话算话，并且他会充分利用这一点。
3。 让孩子参与决定家务或是晚饭作什么。请孩子帮你购物，给他们一张购物单，由他们自己去找某些蔬菜以及诸如此类的事。他们会感觉自己是家庭中真正的一份子，会觉得自己是重要的，有能力的。这在健康的成长中是必要的。这些都具有教育意义，而且可以教给他们重要的生活技能。
4。只要孩子不处于潜在的危险状态，让孩子了解他们所做的会产生怎样的后果。孩子将从中学会重要的技能，所以在某些情况下你不要再中间参与。允许孩子做他们正在做的事情，让他们直接看到会有什么样的结果发生。
5。当你责备孩子的时候，要有逻辑性，让他们看到这样做的后果。如果他们打碎了某样东西，你立刻责备了他，几天后他就会忘了他做过什么。你不妨试试扣除他们的零用钱，并让他们知道对于这类事情，这是一个长期的处理后果。或者如果他们由于淘气（不是意外）打碎了自己的玩具，他们想再买一个，教会他们如何存钱再买一个而不是立刻到商店去买个新的。
6。如果你的孩子乱发脾气或是有调皮的迹象，不要对他们吼叫。离开房间，等他们愿意好好谈一谈了，再让他们进入那个房间。
7。不要说你的孩子不好。向他们解释淘气的是他们的行为而不是他们本身。
8。要孩子去做某件事，尽量不要通过对孩子吼叫使他们害怕这一方式。心平气和地告诉他们你希望他们做什么，如果有必要，给与他们帮助。不要通过威吓逼迫孩子去做事情。
9。仔细考虑你希望孩子成为什么样子的人并且用有影响的方式来养育他。如果你希望孩子有礼貌，懂得尊敬他人，那么在你的日常生活中你应该这样对周围的人来影响他。孩子们通过模仿学习。
10。爱你的孩子，每天都在行动和语言上让他知道。