What is confidence?
- It is believeing in yourself
- It is believing in others
- It is trust
- It is faith
How do you build it? By learning to think any way you want to. Let me explain.
Thanks to Lyman Reed, I’ve been listening to The Focus Society of Over Achievers which is hosted by Chuck Bartok. It is a radio talk show format, where people discuss some of the top Personal Development books ever written. A few days ago I started with Episode 1 and I am hooked. Today they were discussing the chapter on faith from Napoleon Hill’s classic Think and Grow Rich. And a thought occurred to me…
Napoleon Hill never mentions confidence, only faith. Faith has gotten a bad rap lately hasn’t it? Then I thought…
What’s the difference? Is there any? You can swap the words ‘have faith’ and ‘am confident’ in any of these sentences, can’t you?
- I have faith that the sun will rise tomorrow.
- I am confident my car will start when I turn the key.
- I have faith that my wife will feed the boys in the morning.
- I am confident my sons will make it to school in the morning.
- I have faith I will have income tomorrow.
I could be wrong about any one of the above statements, right? Why am I confident? Why do I have faith? Through my powers of observation, I have seen these things consistently repeated. I believe they are probable, even though I can’t be sure. So how do you build faith/confidence? Repetition and practice.
Some say our current economic crisis is a crisis of confidence. I guess it could also be called a crisis of faith.
How is courage connected to faith and confidence? Closely, right?
So how do you keep confident, courageous thoughts in your mind? The same way, repetition and practice. Confidence isn’t something that just happens, it requires effort to build.
After all this thinking this morning, I opened up my reader, and like magic, the first post I saw was How Can I be More Confident by @TimBrownson. Like all great coaches, he knows the secret to confidence/faith. The secret is changing the way you habitually think. In his post he has a brief story about Stuart Anderson and an exchange Stuart had with the media.
At the resulting news conference a journalist asked ‘Stuart, how did
you do that, how did you make that shot?’ Stuart looked puzzled ‘What
do you mean?’ ‘How did you hit that shot after missing more than 20?’
‘Well I’m a 50-50 shooter said Stuart, so do the math. If I’ve missed
so many the odds were stacked in my favor, how could I miss?
The journalist thought for a second and said ‘Ok, so if you’d have
hit every attempt then the math says no way could you hit, so would you
have asked the coach to draw a different play? Are you nuts, said
Stuart, if I’d not missed I’d be on fire, how could I have missed?’
‘But you can’t have it both ways’ ‘Yes I can’ said Stuart ‘I can think
any way I want to.’
You build confidence and faith by learning to think like Stuart Anderson.
译文:
如何建立信心？
什么是信心？
- 信心是相信自己
- 信心是相信他人
- 信心是信任
- 信心是信仰
如何建立信心呢？通过学会思考你能想到的任何方法。让我来解释一下。
多亏了莱蒙·列德，我才能一直听由查克·巴托克主办的The Focus Society of Over Achievers。这是个广播节目，在这里朋友讨论一些已发表的优秀个人发展书籍。几天前我从片段1开始，并且我已经为之着迷了。今天他们正在讨论的是有关信仰的章节，出自拿破仑·希尔的经典作品《思考致富》。而我有个想法…
拿破仑·希尔从来没有提到信心，只有信仰。最近信仰已经被严厉批评了，不是吗？接着我想…
什么是信心？还有信心吗？你可以在下面任何句子里将“有信心”和“相信”互换，不是吗？
- 我有信心明天太阳会升起。
- 我相信当我转动钥匙的时候我的车将会启动。
- 我相信我妻子早上会喂男孩子们。
- 我相信我的儿子们早上会及时赶到学校。
- 我相信我明天就会得到薪水。
上面的表述中我肯定有一个是错的，对吗？为什么我会相信？为什么我有信心？经过我的观察，我发现这些东西总是不断重复。我相信他们是有可能的，即使我不是很肯定。所以你是如何建立信仰/信心的？重复和实践。
一些人说我们目前经济危机其实就是信心危机。我想这也可以被称为信仰危机。
勇气与信仰和信心是怎样相联系的？紧密联系的，对吗？
所以你如何牢记自信的，勇敢的思想？同样的方法，重复和实践。信心不是那些只是碰巧发生的事情，它需要努力才能建立。
早上想完这些以后，我打开我的读本，就像魔法一样，我看到的第一篇就是@TimBrownson写的《我如何能够更加有信心呢？》就像所有伟大的辅导员一样，他知道信心/信仰的秘密。这个秘密就是改变你一贯的思维方式。在这篇文章里，他有一个关于Stuart Anderson的简短故事以及Stuart与媒体的交流。
在新闻发布会上，一个记者问道，“ Stuart,你是怎样做到的？你是如何射中的？”Stuart一脸困惑，“你指的是什么”“你是如何在超过20次射击错误后还能击中的？”“我是一个50－50射击手”Stuart说，“数字亦是如此。如果我已经错过了那么多对我有利的机会，我又怎么能够错过呢？”
那记者想了一下说：“那好吧，所以如果你想尽一切可能去击中，然后数字显示你已经没有办法击中了，那么你会叫你的教练给你制定不同的玩法吗?”“你疯了吗？”Stuart说，“如果我没有错过那么我会一直射击，我怎么可能错过呢？”“但是你不能两全其美阿？”“是，我可以。”Stuart说，“我可以想出任何我能想到的办法。”
你可以学习像Stuart Anderson那样思考，建立自信与信心。