You probably do not mean it but you have been doing it for so long that you quietly tell yourself it’s just part of your personality. If people can deal with it fine, if not that’s their hard luck. After all you didn’t ask them to share the same air space.
Ahh but you did actually. You asked someone out on a date and they accepted. Calendars were cleared and the location of the date was agreed upon. The day of the date you and the other person showed up promptly. You complimented each other on your appearances. You even remembered to bring a little gift so far so good.
You go into the restaurant and just as the waiter is escorting you and your date to the table your “personality” kicks in. Why did they have to seat you on this side of the room? It’s always too crowded in here. Your date takes this lightly at first but then it dawns on them not only are you serious but it shifted your mood. The two of you start to talk about different things but now you start to complain that they are taking too long with your food. When it does arrive you comment that the food is going to be cold, when you see steam rising from the plate, you grumble it’s too hot. How do they expect people to eat when their food is on fire?
Your date is a trouper. They thought they had weathered your storm but the reality is you are just getting warmed up. Everything within eyesight or earshot is fair game. Why are did those people two tables over order the house special? Don’t they know what’s in it? This cheerful banter keeps up after the two of you leave the restaurant. “Why do people say this or do that? It was stupid for them to build the restaurant at this location. We should have picked a better spot.” By now your date is not only looking to end this dreadful experience but to literally run away from you. When you ask them for a second date, their answer is non committal but the body language screams, “Are you kidding?”
Nobody can dispute that but constantly dwelling on the negative can be a drain on anybody who happens to be in your universe. It’s not that most people can’t take the bitter with the sweet. Life forces that on you. However if being around someone who thinks the sun is always shining can be a pain, going out on a date with someone who sees storm clouds wherever they go is much worse.
Do yourself a favor and lighten up. Yes you want the date to go perfectly but accept the reality that nothing on this earth is flawless. Practice a little self humor as well as patience. If you need help then take your cues from your next date (this one is over). Use their attitude as a guide and stay alert when you find yourself drifting into complain mode.
If you have a good sense of humor, take advantage of it. Laughter is a great ice breaker and you’d be surprised at how powerful it can be to help you connect with you date. Believe it or not, both of you are nervous. It is okay to let your date know that you’re nervous.
Above all, start telling yourself that sometimes things are not as bad as you make them out to be. This is going to take a while to learn but stay with it. Not only will your date appreciate it but you will discover how much better you feel mentally, physically and emotionally.
译文:
杯子总是还有另一半空着
你也许无法解释清题目的含义，但一直以来你就是那么做的，你默默地告诉自己那就是你的品质。人们能把握这种情况就最好，否则就是他们的不幸。毕竟你并没有与他们处在同一环境下。
啊哈，但是你确实就是在那么做。你约一些人出来，他们也接受了。日期没问题了，约会地点也商量定了。约会当天你和其他人也都出现了，大家聚在一起相互寒暄。你甚至还记得带去了小礼物。
你走进饭店，侍应生带着你们到预订的位子那（其实你心底里想一脚踢开）。为什么他们要让你坐在房间的这边？这里总是那么拥挤，开始的时候参加约会的你仍表现的很优雅，但很快你开始情绪不稳定，约会的你和现实中的你开始谈论不同的事，现在你开始抱怨侍应生菜上得太慢了。当菜总算上来的时候你又在那发牢骚菜都快变凉了，当你看到蒸汽从盘子冒出，你又嫌那还很烫。在吃的东西还没好的时候他们指望人们吃什么啊？
你约会的时候更像是一个演员，人们以为他们已经经历了你爆发的时刻，而事实却是你才刚点燃怒火。任何事情没有亲眼所见、亲耳所闻就只是一个骗局。为什么那些人预订了两个在餐厅最边上的特殊位置。他们难道不知道那有什么吗？这些嬉笑声一直持续到你离开餐厅。“为什么人们会这么说，这么做？在这里建一个餐厅对他们来说是一件很愚蠢的事。我们应该选一个更好的地方。”直到现在约会中的你不仅还没有结束这糟糕的经历，反而远脱离了想象。当你邀请他们再一次的约会的时候，他们没有表示同意但他们的行动一直在表达一种意思：“你是在开玩笑么？”没有人会对此提出质疑，但是这种经常性的消极聚会会使你身边的那些人越来越少。大部分人是不能同甘共苦的，生活的压力在你的肩上。尽管如此，如果周遭没有可以与之共同分享快乐的朋友，那么还是去找那些能共患难的吧。
帮自己一个忙，点亮你的人生！是的，你希望约会很完美，但你也得接受现实：这个世界上没有一样东西是没有瑕疵的。经常给自己找点乐子，同时也能忍受痛苦。如果你需要帮助，从你的下一个约会中去寻求（这次的已经结束了）。当你发现自己开始变得怨天尤人，用下次约会中人们的态度作为指引，敲醒警钟。
如果你有很好的幽默感，利用这个优势。笑容是破冰的利器，你会惊讶于它的强大，帮你认识到真实的你和约会时的你。不管你是否相信，“你们”都很不安，让约会时的你表现的更真实吧。
最重要的是要告诉自己有的时候事情并没有你设想的那么糟糕，要不断地学习而不是任由它发展。这样，你不单会珍惜你的每次约会，你也将发现你从精神上、生理上和情感上都感觉如此美妙。