Do you ever find yourself telling someone you’ve recently met the story of your life? You probably don’t think of it as a story, because to you it’s all factual. Truth is, we place a lot of interpretation on our life story. And when you remember how it was from the present day perspective, you often distort fact from interpretation. When you do tell your story, do you look at it and wonder if it’s the story you would have written for yourself? Do you ever wonder whose story are you living?
Ask yourself this question: “Am I living a life of my own design, following my passions and interests, or am I following my family, friends, or society, living someone else’s dreams?” If you now realize that you may not be living your chosen life story, it might be time to take a look at what you’d like to change. If you’ve been doing the same career or business, living the same lifestyle, keeping too busy to take time to observe your life and your feelings, it may be time to take a time out and see what’s really important to you.
You may have followed a path determined by others who influenced you early in life—teachers, parents, siblings, or peers. You may have done what was expected of you—getting a college degree, taking a job that fit your skills, climbing the corporate ladder, building a business, or staying at home to raise children. What might you have given up? A career that fully expressed who you are, creative pursuits, a story of your own making.
Writing a New Life Story
Why do so many people wake up one day and find they are not living their own story? Or they don’t wake up at all, but are feeling stuck and unfulfilled in their lives and don’t know exactly why. If any of this relates to how you are feeling, it’s not too late to write a new life story, NOW! You CAN create a life of joy, fulfillment, and passion by taking action in the direction of your dreams. It’s not too late to build a more rewarding life.
What will it take for you to write a new life story? Imagine you are a writer and sit down with a pen and paper or in front of your computer. Start from where you are now and write about where you would like to go. Include relationships, health, finances, business, career, creative self expression, personal development, and whatever makes up the story of your ideal life. When you’ve written about the next one year or as far as you want to go, share your new story with someone you feel safe with. If you’re working with a coach, they can help you develop your new story.
The next step is to start living it. You will start finding people and opportunities being drawn to you, so you can live your ideal life story. Isn’t it rewarding to be the author of your life?
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你活在谁的故事里？
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你曾告诉别人最近你生活中的故事吗？你可能认为它不是个故事，因为对你来说它全部是真实的。事实是，对于生活中的故事我们给了很多的阐述。当你回忆起它是怎样从最近的点点滴滴汇集起来的时候，你的阐述可能就会扭曲它本来的面貌。当你讲述故事的时候，你有没有好好的审视过它，你是否想过它就是为你自己而写？你曾想过你活在谁的故事里吗？
问你自己这个问题：“我是活在自己设计的生活里吗，是跟着自己的感觉，兴趣走吗，或者是围绕家庭，朋友，社会活着吗，还是活在别人的梦里呢？如果你意识到你可能不是活在自己选择的故事里，那么现在就是你要改变些什么的时候了。如果你一直做同样的工作或生意，生活方式单一，太忙而没有时间去观察你的生活，审视你的感情，那么现在是你需要花时间去想想什么东西对你来说是真正重要的时候了。
你遵循的人生轨道可能被早期影响你的的人所决定了—比如说你的老师，父母，兄弟或姐妹，或者是你的同龄人。你可能是做一些别人希望你去做的事—获得大学学位，找一份适合你专业的工作，进入管理层，建立公司，或者在家带小孩。你可能已经放弃了什么？也许是展现自我的工作，对创新的追求，还有你自己的故事。
谱写你新的生活故事
为什么有这么多人有一天醒过来的时候发现她们没有生活在自己的故事里？或者他们不再醒来，但是却感觉自己被卡住了，不满足自己的生活，不知道为什么会这样。如果这些与你你的感觉有关，那么谱写你新的生活故事还不算晚。现在！你可以建立一个快乐，满意的生活，并因朝着你梦想的发展方向前进而充满激情。现在建立更有意义的生活还不算太晚。
你写新的生活故事会给你带来什么？想象你是一个作家，拿着纸和笔坐下来，或者在电脑前坐着。从你现在开始写，还写你将会怎么样。包括你的人际关系，健康，财产，生意，工作，创造性个人表现，个人发展以及组成你理想生活的任何东西。当你写到接下来这一年或者是任何更远的时间的时候，和你认为可以保密的人分享你新的故事。如果你和教练分享你的新故事，他们会帮你发展你的故事。
接下来就是活在你的新故事里。你会发现人们以及机会开始想你靠近，那么你就可以活在你理想的生活故事里了。成为自己生活的作者难道不是很有意义吗？
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这篇文章的著者是David B. Bohl—他是一个丈夫，父亲，朋友，生活教练，作家，企业家，还是Slow Down FAST博客的创始人。想看更多的信息就登陆他的博客Slow Down FAST。