By Carole Fogarty
“How many times have we made a mistake that effected the rest of our life, simply because we made it, when we were moving too fast, at the effect of our stress, anger or fear” Marianne Williamson
Rejuvenate You:
It’s time to be blunt and get straight to the point. We as human beings waste bucket and bucket loads of energy simply by resisting the present moment and not accepting it. We mindlessly project tons and tons of our own very special, precious and valuable energy back into an event for minutes, hours and even days after it’s happened.
The more we resist a reality that doesn’t please us, the more firmly we become plugged into it. The stronger it’s hold, the greater the depletion of our energy and the higher our stress levels. Not a particularly useful recipe for valuing, protecting and honouring our own energy.
There Are Two Ways To Approach A Situation That Doesn’t Please You:
1: With resistance
2: With acceptance and grace
Acknowledge It - Let It Go - Then Go With The Flow:
It may be as common as burnt toast, caught in a traffic jam or waiting in a queue that gets you all worked up and agitated. Simply by becoming more aware of your response is a major restorative step towards preventing your energy being wasted unnecessarily. Even if 2 out of 5 times you are able to notice the agitation rising and surrender to it’s presence - you are well on your way to rejuvenating yourself.
Simple Solutions To Dissolve A Frustrating Moment:
- Release the build up of frustration and stress before it gets out of control
- Teach the mind to get over it or trick it into focusing on something else
I’ve given you a few options below:
- Diffuse the stress in 30 seconds:
- Diffuse the stress in 1 minute:
- Diffuse the stress in 3 minutes
Find one or more solution that feels just right for you and then go forth and rejuvenate.
Diffuse the stress in 30 seconds:
Spray a few squirts of “Bach’s rescue remedy” into your mouth or if you are in Australia 7 drops under the tongue of “Australian bush flowers emergency essence”. Both essences have been used for decades to remove stress, worry and upset. I always keep a bottle in my hand bag and car. It’s like a yoga class in a bottle. Most good health food stores would stock these products.
Diffuse the stress in 1 minute:
Disconnect from the situation and get back into your body by practicing a little breathing therapy. Create a wider space between you, your mind and the unexpected situation.
When you are stressed or frustrated your breathing becomes fast, short and shallow. All your energy is directed back into your head, which then continues to feed an excess of stressed energy back into the unwanted situation.
Breathing Therapy: Inhale slowly, gently and deeply for 3-5 seconds then exhale for 3-5 seconds through your nose. Drop your shoulders, release the tension in your cheeks, jaw and neck, feel energy flow all the way down to your feet. Feel your whole body open up. Allow. Try it now while reading this article. I dare you.
or
Try some hand yoga.
Hold your ear lobes between thumb and index finger, gently pull down. The weight of your arms will create a space around your mouth, neck and jaw area. Feel a release of stuck energy flow instantly away from your head as the pressure is released. Yeah! Clever you and clever hands.
In both remedies we are simply aiming to get the build up of stressed energy out of your head and the energy flowing back throughout your body.
Diffuse the stress in 3 minutes - this works magic:
Lift both your hands up and rest them over your heart. Try it now. It instantly brings your full awareness back into your body and away from any unpleasant drama.
Now notice how you feel …… a little more relaxed. Take your time. You simply can’t help feeling a wave of relaxation wash over you when your hands are resting on your heart. It also symbolically says, I am safe and I am protecting my energies from the world.
You can now confidently and energetically, take control of the situation rather than it, having control of you.
Continue. Leaving your hands gently resting over your heart imagine breathing in and out gently with patience through your heart. Feel your hands rise and fall with your breath. With each inhale feel your heart energy grow and expand as you feel more and more relaxed. With each exhale watch the negativity dissolve like ice melting in the hot sun. Feel it drip and fall away from your body. The love energy around your heart area is the most potent energy in your body.
This is such a simple, yet very beautiful and effective way to redirect any energy being unnecessarily thrown away into a situation which you can’t change. Luckily now, I very rarely get upset when life throws me curve balls. I only tend to get thrown off balance when I’m extremely tired and am not grounded fully in my energy.
After years and years studying different energy modalities and other cultures I strongly believe that when things don’t go as planned there is always a reason or higher spiritual purpose for it happening which, at the time, we are often just not able to see. One of the joys of being a human being.
译文:
养精蓄锐，重整旗鼓
“一失足成千古恨，当我们在压力，气愤和恐惧中向前迈进，多少次我们曾犯下这样的错误。”玛丽安*威廉姆森
重新振作
让我们开门见山。我们通常会浪费很多时间来抵制，并且不愿意接受现实。当经历了挫败之后，我们会把大量的宝贵的精力用来沉浸在这件事中难以自拔，几分钟，几个小时，甚至时几天。
越是抵制我们不愿意接受的事实，我们就会变得更加困惑。越是困惑其中，我们浪费的精力就更多，压力就越大。抵制对于保护和充分利用我们的精力，使其变得有价值来说不是一个好的方法。
面对你不愿意面对的事情时，你只有两种应对方式：
其一，坚决抵制：其二，欣然接受
既来之，则安之，随波逐流
烤焦的面包，交通堵塞，以及排在长长的队伍之末等再普通不过的事都可以让你变得烦躁不已。察觉你的烦躁情绪是阻止你浪费不必要的精力的重要举措。即使五次中只有两次你察觉出自己越来越焦虑，且承认了其存在的事实，那么你已经向重整旗鼓的道路上迈出了一大步了。
面临挫折时的简单的应对措施：
1． 在愤怒与压力击垮你之前，把它们发泄掉
2.告诉自己不要再想这件事并且转移自己的注意力
我给你三种选择：
1.在三十秒内释放压力，
2.在一分钟内释放压力，
3.在三分钟内释放压力。
选择一种或一种以上的适合你的选择，让自己重新振作起来。
在三十秒内释放压力 ：
往你嘴里喷几口“巴赫救援救济”，如果你是澳大利亚人，那么在你的舌头下面滴7滴“澳大利亚灌木花卉紧急精华”。几十年来，这两种精华液都被用来消除压力，担忧和焦虑。我总是在手提包里和车里放上一瓶。这就好像是在小瓶子里的瑜伽课。大多数的健康食品商店都有售。
在一分钟内释放压力：
不要再去想这些不开心的事了，试试呼吸疗法来放轻松。给你，你的大脑，以及突如其来的状况过多的空间。
当你感到压力很大或着焦虑的时候，你的呼吸会变得局促，而且很浅。你用所有的精力来思考，这样你会面临更多的压力。
呼吸疗法：慢慢地，温柔地，深深地吸入3-5秒钟的空气，然后同样花3-5秒的时间用鼻子慢慢呼出。肩膀放松，放松、下颌和颈部的肌肉，感觉能量慢慢流向你的脚。感觉整个人一下子神清气爽。我觉得你在读此文的时候不妨试试。
或者试试手部的瑜伽：
用你的大拇指和食指拉住你的耳垂，慢慢地往下拉。你手臂的重量会在你的嘴部，颈部和下颌的附近腾出一些空间。你能感觉到当压力从你的大脑一瞬间释放的时候，积淀了很久的能量也在即刻间喷发。对，心灵手巧！
两种方法都旨在将你脑中积压的能量释放，遍布全身
三分钟内释放压力—这个方法很神奇：
举起你的双手把它们放在你的胸口，你现在不妨试试，这样做会让你瞬间觉得自己的注意力又重新集中在了自己身上，不再想那不开心的事了。
你现在感觉怎么样。。。是不是放松些了。不着急慢慢来。当你把手放在胸口的时候，你会情不自禁地感觉到全身心的放松。好像象征性的说，我很安全，我在保护我的能量免受外界的干扰。
现在你可以信心满满，精力充沛的解决这些问题而让这些问题来控制你。
我们继续。把你的手放在你的胸口，想象你正耐心的用你的心呼吸，你能感觉到你的手随着呼吸的节奏一起一伏。每吸入一口气，你会觉得你心中的能量在增加，你越来越放松。每呼出一口气，不开心的事就会像冰一样在骄阳底下融化，一滴一滴从你的身上滴落，流走。在你心中，爱的能量时你体内最具潜能的力量。
在你没有办法改变现状的情况下，这是一个既简单又有效的好方法以避免不必要的能量消耗。我很幸运，我很少为了生活中的不如意而感到不安。我只希望当我在极度疲劳，筋疲力尽的时候，能够找回原有的平衡。
经过多年来对于能量形态和其他文化的研究，我深信当事物的发展不如我们所愿的时候，那么其中一定有什么原因，或者是更高层次的精神目的，这是我们所看不到的。这是我们作为人类的一大乐趣。