Complete our quiz to discover the best ceremony for you!
You can't stop gazing at the sparkling ring on your finger and want to start planning your big day, but you just can't decide what type of ceremony you want. Do you go traditional and opt for a church affair, or a modern, civil ceremony? If you're struggling to decide, just answer these questions to find out what would be best for you!
The last time you went to church was....
a) You can't remember, but suffice to say it was a long time ago
b) A few weeks ago. You try and go whenever you can
c) You've never so much as stepped foot in a church
You'd like to get married in a church because...
a) It's important to your family and you want a traditional wedding
b) It's important to you that you're married in the house of God
c) It would look nice in the photos
You're questioning getting married in a church because...
a) You think it might seem strange as you're not a church goer
b) Your friends aren't really church goers and you're worried it may put them off
c) They make you feel uncomfortable
What appeals to you about a civil ceremony?
a) You can write your own vows and personalise the ceremony
b) Not much but you'll go along with the idea if it's what the majority of your family thinks is right
c) You like the idea of a less formal setting as your focus is more on the celebrations after the ceremony
What puts you off about a civil ceremony?
a) It's over really quickly and you like the pomp and ceremony that comes with a church wedding
b) It's doesn't take place in a church!
c) You don't want to get married in an impersonal register office
If you answered mostly a's...
Your heart is saying church because you've always imagined marrying in one, but your head is telling you it wouldn't be right for you because you're not particularly religious. Talk to your groom and consider his feelings before you decide. It could be that you compromise by having a civil ceremony with a church blessing, or you might both prefer to take your vows in a church. Bear in mind that you'll need to marry in a church close to where you live so you can visit it regularly in the run-up to the wedding, as many churches insist on this. Go with what your heart says, or you won't be happy with your choice.
If you answered mostly b's...
It's clear that the only marriage ceremony for you is a church ceremony. However you're aware that religion is a very personal thing and you don't want your guests to feel uncomfortable. Stop worrying and remember... this is your day! Everyone will respect your decision and will enjoy watching you get married, wherever it may be, and no-one will be there to judge you.
If you answered mostly c's..
Churches make you uncomfortable which is an absolute no-no on your wedding day. And remember having a civil ceremony doesn't necessarily mean getting wed in a register office. You have the pick of hundreds of different venues. If it's a more informal, personalised ceremony you're after, then start looking for a venue that's right for you instead of wasting time worrying whether a church would be more fitting.
译文:
登记结婚还是宗教仪式？
完成下列测试，看看哪种婚礼最适合你！
你无法停止注视指间闪闪发亮的戒指，迫不及待地开始计划属于你的盛大的一天，但你还无法决定你想要何种婚礼。你打算是比较传统地选择教堂婚礼呢，还是选择现代的登记结婚？如果你正苦于做不出决定的话，只要回答下列问题就能发现何种婚礼最适合你了！
你最近一次去教堂是。。。
a) 不记得了，但可以说是很久以前
b) 几周前。你尽可能找一切方便时间去那里
c) 你从来不去教堂
你想要在教堂中结婚是因为。。。
a) 对你和你的家庭来说，举行一场传统的婚礼是很重要的
b) 对你来说，在上帝的住所中结婚时很重要的
c) 这样能让结婚照片看上去很美
你不喜欢在教堂结婚的理由是。。。
a) 因为你不常去教堂，所以你认为这样做很奇怪
b) 你的朋友们也不常去教堂，你担心这会不讨他们的喜欢
c) 教堂婚礼让你感觉不舒服
登记结婚吸引你的地方是？
a) 你可以写下属于自己的誓言，把结婚典礼变得有个性
b) 没别的，你只是遵从家里大多数人的意愿
c) 你喜欢不是太正式的装扮，你关注的重点是仪式后的狂欢庆典
你不喜欢登记结婚的理由是？
a) 登记结婚实在太快了，你喜欢教堂婚礼的盛况和仪式
b) 因为它不是在教堂里举行的！
c) 你不想在公共的结婚登记处结婚
如果你大多数选择的是a
你心里说着选择的是教堂婚礼，因为你总是幻想着在教堂中结婚，但你的大脑告诉你不该这么做，因为你不是特别地信奉宗教。在你做出决定前和你的新郎谈谈，问问他的感受。可能你会得到折中的解决方法，那就是教堂中举行登记结婚，或者你们两都会喜欢在教堂里宣读自己的誓言。记住，你选择结婚的教堂必须离你住的地方比较近，这样你可以从准备阶段到结婚当天期间定期去一下那里，这是很多教堂要求新人这么做的。跟着内心的感觉走，不然你的选择是不会让你快乐的。
如果你大多数选择的是b
很明显，对你而言唯一的结婚仪式就是教堂婚礼。然而你也意识到了宗教是十分私人的事，你不希望客人们感到不自在。不要担心这些，记住。。。这是属于你的一天！每个人都会尊重你的选择，会很乐意观赏你的婚礼，不管它是什么样的。没人会在那里评价你。
如果你大多数选择的是c
教堂让你感到不自在，所以教堂婚礼对你而言完全不合适。记住举行登记结婚并不意味着只能在结婚登记处结婚。有数百处结婚地点可供你选择，如果你追求的是比较非正式的，个性化的结婚典礼，那么就不要再浪费时间去担心教堂是不是能更合适这个问题了，你可以开始去寻找一处真正适合你的结婚地点了。