10大指南---教你如何正确对待男友

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原文: A Guide to Treating the Good Ones Well

  1. Don't Give Him the Third Degree About His Female Friends

    This may seem harsh, but it is true. Guys who have a special someone don't issue a hands-off-and-don't-talk-to-me policy for all the other girls they know - for them, it's alright to have one girlfriend and many female friends, and hanging out with them doesn't mean he's cheating on you. And he'll like you all the better if you chill out and join in the fun.
  2. Don't Ask Him If Your Arse Looks Good in Skinny Jeans

    If he's with you, he likes you just as you are. Evaluating whether you look fat in skinny jeans is a dangerous topic for boys - if they say you don't, you might think they're lying, and if they say you do, they might get dumped. Can you see what a sticky situation it is?
  3. Don't Buy Him Expensive Presents to Make Up For Fights

    This is a bad idea, as it makes you come across as a materialist whose only intention is to get back into the good books, when all it may take to sort the matter out is to talk it over with him. That's what guys feel more comfortable with! And he's also not compelled to buy you something in return. Easier on the pocket, easier on the heart.
  4. Don't Insist on Being with Him 24/7

    Guys, like girls, need freedom. If you try to control him and stay in your sight all the time like he's a little kid, he's going to get tired of you. And you don't want that! Be content to spend time apart from him sometimes - it's alright to pursue separate interests.
  5. Don't Turn Up Late for Dates Because You Took Ages Getting Ready

    This is a tricky one. It's paramount to look nice on dates, but when you keep your guy waiting for very long this can wear the poor thing out. Either shorten your beauty routine or start early.
  6. Take An Interest in His Interests

    This will help you to get to know him better, and it will also encourage him to take an interest in your interests too. So, bring on the football talk, Metallica and computer jargon...or whatever.
  7. Accept That He Can't Always Be The Perfect Boyfriend

    Well, you can't always be the perfect girlfriend, even though you probably spend longer trying to than he does. And what does it matter? Enjoy your time together and let little flaws slide.
  8. Don't Complain to Him About the Pimple on Your Nose

    This is what your girl friends are for. You're supposed to bitch about celebrities and paint your nails together. Boyfriends are for going to the movies and grabbing hamburgers with. They're not interested in the pimple on your nose!! They probably won't even notice it!!
  9. Call Him Once After a Fight, But Don't Keep Calling Him

    If he hasn't called you, he might need time and space to just be alone and think awhile. This is alright as it gives you time and space as well, to reflect and be away from him. It's normal - people need to be alone sometimes. Keep calling and he might stay away even longer.
  10. Tell Him You Love Him

    It's as hard for him as it is for you, but believe us, he'll love you more if you tell him. We daresay he'll be pleastantly surprised too, as so many girls expect the guy to do the telling-her-he-loves-her thing - so be different and take the bull by the horns. Spread the love!

译文: 10大指南---教你如何正确对待男友

1.不要对他的女性朋友刨根究底。

  这样说可能过于苛刻,但事实如此。男人有了女朋友,并不意味从此与其他熟悉的女孩不再联系。相反,他可以同时拥有一个女朋友和多个女性朋友,并且同其他女性朋友出去玩并不意味着欺骗。如果你能理智地看待这事并融入他们会更讨男友的欢心。

2.不要问他你穿紧身牛仔裤时臀部是否美观。

  当他与你在一起,他希望你就是你,真实的你。让男友评价你穿紧身牛仔裤时是否显胖这样的问题就像一个陷阱。如果他们说不,你会认为他们说谎,如果他们说是,那就是自找麻烦。你没发现这样的问题很棘手吗?

3.争吵后,不要妄想买昂贵的礼物来弥补过错。

  这是一个坏主意,它让你看起来像一个纯粹的唯物主义者,唯一的意图就是花钱花得大方,漂亮。殊不知解决矛盾的办法就是站在彼此的立场上考虑问题,互相交流,这样的方式会让男生觉得更舒适。同样你也不要强迫他一定要礼尚往来。正如一句真理“轻松你的口袋,轻松你的心灵!”

4.不要24小时黏着他。

  男人,同女人一样需要自由。如果你试图控制他,让他像一个小孩一样时刻不能离开你的视线,他终将会厌倦你,尽管你并不情愿。有时试着去享受他不在的时光,你会发现追求各自的兴趣爱好没有什么不好。

5.约会时不要迟到,因为时间不等人。

  这个问题比较复杂,约会时穿得漂亮当然重要,但如果这样会令你的男友等太久的话,还不如穿一些普通的衣物。最好的办法是精简美丽程序,或者早点开始打扮。

6.选择他的爱好之一当作你你的兴趣爱好。

  这个方法可以更好地了解他,且可以鼓励他了解你的兴趣爱好。所以试着去谈论足球,金属乐队,或计算机行话等等这些他可以感兴趣的话题吧。

7.接受人无完人,男友不可能完美的现实。

     尽管比起你的男友,你可能会花费更多的精力去力求完美,但往往事与愿违。所以还苛求什么呢?略过一些小瑕疵,用心享受两人在一起的时光吧!

8.不要向他抱怨你鼻子上的粉刺。

       诸如此类的事情应该同你的闺中密友谈。在密友面前,你可以毫无顾忌地涂指甲,品论名人是非等等一些小八卦。而你的男友并不会对你鼻子上的粉刺感兴趣,甚至从没发现呢,同他一起看看电影,争吃汉堡包同样甜蜜无间。

9.争吵后打一个电话给对方,但无需一直打。

     如果他不打电话给你,证明他需要时间和空间一个人考虑一下。同时也是给你时间和空间来思考。有时人们需要时间来独处,这是很正常的。如果持续打电话会让他逃得更远。

10.告诉他你爱他。

      表白,不管对男人还是女人来说都是非常困难的事情。但请相信,听到你说爱他之后,他会更爱你。女孩通常期望男友主动说爱你之类的甜言蜜语,所以尝试着调换角色,勇敢说爱他,他绝对会有甜蜜的惊喜。让爱蔓延,萦绕在爱人的心间!