在处理生活中困难时刻时,可以做的和不能做的事情指南

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原文: The Do's and Don’ts Guide to Handling Difficult Times in Life

Is there ever a time in your life in which you encounter troubling times and find it hard to face it? Did you ever wish that someone hand you a manual to give you ideas on how to deal with life the easy way? I will share with you possible ways which worked for me.

Do's Guide to Handling Difficult Times in Life

1) DO meditate

Meditation is the art of relaxing the body and quieting the mind. It is a simple and effective way to relieve stress. When you are feeling stressed or tensed, just find a comfortable place to relax and be at peace with yourself. It's been known that meditation has that soothing effect to the mind, body and soul. You can draw strength from this and can make you stronger. Also, it can create a positive environment for you.

2) DO think positively

When a person thinks positively, it merely means looking at the bright side of life's situations. The circumstances you face, the challenges that come your way, you view it by being optimistic. If you are feeling negative, you can change that around by thinking positive thoughts. Just by doing this, you change your world for the better. You will find yourself hopeful, happy, confident, etc. The negativity you encounter in life doesn't affect you greatly.

3) DO have a role model

A role model serves as a good example in which we can follow to enrich our lives. They can teach us certain things and let us view life in a different way. When you need direction in life, a role model can indeed get you there. It is important to choose the right one that can give you a positive influence. In order to learn from your role model, examine his or her life and apply the knowledge you've gained from them. A role model can inspire us and even help us create our own opportunities.

4) DO keep an open communication with others

When you keep an open communication with others, you are allowing the free flow of information from you to them and vice versa. It's a good way to know what's going on in each other's lives, to keep updated and even feel that sense of being connected. When hard times enter our life, do talk to others and listen by being unbiased. It can be a truly rewarding experience. You can get a new perspective in life, your options become visible, you get understanding and most of all companionship.

5) DO write in a journal

Writing in a journal is basically jotting down your thoughts, feelings, or anything that could help you in your situation. It can also reflect very much about what you want to change or to accept about your life. When you need an outlet for your emotions, do write down in your journal. What you can get out of this whole journal writing are to improve your problem solving skills and to increase your critical thinking skills. Reading your journal gives you an idea of how much you have progressed in your life and what else is lacking.

Don'ts Guide to Handling Difficult Times in Life

1) DON'T be afraid to search for emotional support

Just by being afraid it blocks an individual from moving forward. It can even probably cause one to be isolated. Everybody deserves emotional support from others. Giving yourself a chance to have what you want can make a difference in your life.

2) DON'T give up easily

Giving up doesn't guarantee that the quality of a person's life will improve. Unfortunately, it is a defeating mental attitude. It is necessary to think that a person deserves a better life and even if it means fighting every day just to get what you want.

3) DON'T put the blame on other people

It's easy blaming others for one's misfortune; however, doing this can only cause hard feelings. Life has its ups and down's or even twists. The best possible way to handle such a difficult situation is to accept the challenges in life and have the courage to face them.

4) DON'T focus on self-pity

Focusing on self-pity and let life passes, one by, can lead to nowhere. You have the ultimate power to decide which course your life will take. Just taking simple steps ultimately can defeat that negativity.

5) DON'T take shortcuts

Shortcuts are known as temporary solutions. It is not lasting, taking different approach can make the journey worthwhile. Taking the time to think, creating strategies, devising a plan and maintaining one's calm can get you further.

Life can be tough at times, but there is a guide map. The list which I provide does help in letting someone deal with life in an effective way. I do hope that after reading this article you can start to apply it in your life.

译文: 在处理生活中困难时刻时,可以做的和不能做的事情指南

你的生活中曾经有意外陷入麻烦不知道如何面对的时刻么?你曾经希望什么人伸出援手给你一个指南告诉你一个方法,关于如何简单的处理生活中的麻烦么?我愿意跟你共享那些曾经对我起作用的方法,希望它们也能作用与你们的生活。

在处理生活中困难事情可以做的事情指南:
1) 去思考
思考是一门放松身体和平静内心的艺术。也是一个简单而有效的减缓压力的办法。当你觉得有压力或者很紧张的时候,只要去找一个舒适的地方去放松和让你自己平静下来就会好很多。不难看出思考对我们的思绪,身体和灵魂有缓和安慰的作用。你可以由此找出优势的地方,而使自己变的更强壮。当然,它也可以为你创造一个积极的环境。

2)往正面、积极的方面思考
当一个人往积极的方面思考,它仅仅意味着看见了生活中的曙光。你所面对的情况,对你来说是挑战,你的观点就会变的乐观。如果你觉得消极,你可以改变它,并且思考正面积极的想法。只要你这么做,你就会把你的世界变的更好。你会找到你所希望的快乐,自信,等等。那些突如其来的消极事情并不会对你的生活造成非常大的影响。

3)去找一个模范人物
一个模范人物可以做为一个好的可以让我们跟随模仿去丰富我们生活的例子。它们可以教会我们一些事情,同时也会引领我们看见生活中不同的路。当你的生活需要目标和方向的时候,一个模范角色可以带你到正确的位置。所以,找一个对的角色模范是很重要的,因为他将给你积极、正面的影响。为了你可以从模范角色中学习,并运用你从他们身上学习到的知识去检验别人的生活。一个模范角色可以鼓励我们,甚至帮助我们去创造属于我们自己的机会。

4)保持和别人的开放式交流
当你保持和别人开放式的交流,你完全可以从你和他们的对话中得到减少恶行的免费讯息。这是一个很好的方法去了解每个人的生活究竟发生了什么事,保持更新这些信息,并觉得这些是和自己相关的。当困难的时刻进入你的生活,去和别人交谈,并且没用偏见的聆听别人的意见。这可以成为一个真实而有价值的经验。同时,你可以在你的生活中得到一个新的观点,你的选择会变成可见的,你会获得理解和最多的友谊。

5)去写日记
写入日记是一个很基本的迅速记录下你的想法,感觉,或者任何在你的情况下对你有帮助的方法。它也可以很大程度的反应出你想要改变什么,或者接受关于你生活的事情。当你需要释放你的情绪时,去写下你的日记。你可以通过整个写日记的过程去提升你解决问题的能力和增加你批判性思维的能力,将自己从困难中拔出来。阅读你的日记,会让你清楚的知道在你的生活中你究竟进步了多少,同时,还存在什么缺点需要继续改进。

处理困难时期生活,不能做的事情指南:
1)不要因为害怕而去寻找情感支持
仅仅因为害怕前方移动的一个单独的阻塞。它甚至可能因为一个而变的孤立。每个人都应该从别人那里得到情感支持。给你自己一个机会去拥有那些你觉得可以使你的生活变的与众不同的东西。

2)不要轻易放弃
放弃并不意味着可以保证提高一个人的生活质量。不幸的,那是一个失败的心理态度。而是必须去思考,一个人要得到更好的生活,是否意味着每天努力的获得你所希望得到的。

3)不要责备别人
很容易就因为一个不幸而去责备逼人,无论如何,这么做可以仅仅因为感觉到困难。生活有它自己的高潮和谷底,又或者在两者之间。在每个困难的情况下,去接受生活中的挑战,以及有勇气去面对他们,是生活中最有可能可以处理每个问题的方法。

4)不要过分自卑
不断的自卑,然后让自己的时间不断地流逝,最后,将无法到达任何地方。你有无限的能量去决定你的人生要经历什么。只有不断的接受那些简单的事情,才能击败那些消极的想法。

5)不要走捷径
众所周知,捷径只是一个临时解决问题的方法。它不是永久的,采用不同的方法可以使旅途变的更有价值。用时间去思考,创建策略,设计一个计划,并且保持镇静,可以达到你的期许。

生活可以是艰苦的过程,但会有一个指南地图在那。上面我列出来的那些观点,可以帮助人们在生活中有效的解决问题。我希望通过对这篇文章的阅读,你会开始将它们运用到你的生活中。