怀孕了,为什么还要保密?

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原文: Why moms-to-be keep it quiet

When the official news of Jennifer Lopez' pregnancy was announced, absolutely nobody was surprised. I mean, the normally super-fit star was getting quite round in the middle and was developing an all-over padded look. But even as the rumors flew, she denied it. As if she would rather we all think she got fat than admit she was going to be a mother. Why do stars hide their pregnancies, even when it is so obvious?

One reason they don't tell is likely the same reason many non-famous women don't: they want to get safely through that first trimester, when complications are more likely to arise. But celebrities have a lot of other reasons for keeping the lid on the happy news for as long as possible.

For one, they've got to think about how impending motherhood is going to impact their career. If you are making a living being sexy, pregnancy is probably going to change your image somewhat. Then there's the paparazzi. A pregnant celebrity is a paparazzi magnet. Instead of quietly rejoicing in the miracle of conception, a famous mom-to-be has to deal with intense interest in the most personal of all experiences. People are getting paid lots of money to butt into your business.

But while celeb moms get a lot more attention than us regular folks, I think there are plenty of moms who keep their pregnancy a secret for similar reasons. Paparazzi aside, many working moms-to-be worry that motherhood will derail their careers. That they will be perceived as having different priorities than their non-pregnant and male counterparts and might therefore be passed over for advancement. I used to work with a woman who was on track to receive a promotion when she got pregnant. She refused to admit to anyone in the office that she was going to be a mother because she feared it would jeopardize her career. She got her promotion and eventually came clean about her pregnancy. Interestingly enough, less than a year after she gave birth, her priorities did change. She quit her job and the last I heard she was happily living the life of a stay-at-home mom. But by keeping her pregnancy quiet, she was able to make that decision in her own time on her own terms. Did you hide your pregnancy for similar reasons? Was your career negatively impacted when you became a mother?

译文: 怀孕了,为什么还要保密?

当有官方称,珍妮弗·洛佩兹怀孕的时候,绝对没有人会感到奇怪。我的意思是,这位通常保持曼妙身材的巨型,现在却中段滚圆,并且整个身形朝着臃肿的方向发展。但即使流言漫天,她还是拒不承认。好像她更喜欢让我们觉得她只是发了福,而不是要做妈妈了。为什么这些明星要掩盖她们怀孕的事实,即使当身形已经很明显的时候?
 
明星们不承认怀孕的原因之一与多数普通女性一样:前三个月通常都会谣言四起,她们只想安全度过。但是名人不揭露这个快乐的消息,能拖多久就拖多久,还有其他原因。
 
原因之一是,她们要考虑产子之后是否会影响自己的事业。如果你走性感路线,怀孕可能在某种程度上影响你的形象。还要顾忌到狗仔队。怀孕的明星对狗仔队有莫大的吸引力。这个著名的妈妈无法安静的享受孕育新生的奇迹,而不得不面对公众对于自己各种经历的强烈兴趣。这些人通过插手你的事,赚到了很多钱。
 
但是当明星妈妈比我们普通人受到更多关注的时候,我想仍有很多妈妈会以类似的原因对自己怀孕的消息进行保密。撇开狗仔队不谈,很多工作的孕妇会担心生子会让她们的事业搁置。当她们与未怀孕的竞争者和男性竞争者对生活各方面的优先顺序不同的时候,就会被人发现有了身孕,进而可能会在晋升时被忽略。我曾与一位女性共事,已有迹象表明她将被升职,而这时,她怀孕了。她拒不向办公室里的同事承认要做妈妈了,因为他怕这样会危及到她的事业。她得到了升迁,并最终承认了怀孕的事实。有趣的是,在她生子一年之后,她的优先顺序有所改变。她辞了职,我听到的关于她的最后一件事是,她很开心在今后的生活中作全职妈妈。但是因为她对怀孕的事默不作声,她才能用自己的方式按照自己的时间做出决定。你是否也因为同样的原因掩盖怀孕的事呢?你做了母亲,是否对你的事业造成了消极的影响?