A small number of people, but particularly those of some religions, feel they have the right to police who can get married, who cannot, and for what reason. Two of the groups often targeted against being allowed to marry are homosexuals and lesbians. One of the reasons often suggested as to why they should not be allowed to marry is that "Marriage is about having and raising children". I find this point to be particularly of interest and 100% laughable.
So often the argument is used, and I wonder do these people even think about what they are saying, or suggesting?
- Does this mean that people who are infertile can not get married?
- Does it mean that people who do not want children should not get married?
- Will they protest people past child bearing years getting married?
- Does being married mean you are a suitable person for raising kids?
- What if the person had children from a previous relationship?
- Should couples be forced to divorce when their children leave home?
- It infers ignorance that homosexuals cannot have children or do not want them.
- Should heterosexual people who are divorced and do not have custody of their children, be allowed to remarry?
They frequently reference the Bible when referring to this, which is odd because humans engaged in marriage type relationships long before the Bible was even put together, and marriage exists in many religions, not only those who follow the Bible.
Humans have lived in monogamous relationships for many generations, they held ceremonies to unite the couple even before it was called a "wedding". People united in bonds long before religion set a standard of rules, and to be fair, how is it acceptable for one religion to force its' belief system onto people who do not follow that religion?
Alas, I have wandered off topic. My real issue is the argument against allowing homosexuals to marry, because marriage is about having and raising children. I honestly feel that this is a lame excuse for a reason against homosexual marriages. I do not think many people even realize that by saying this they are insulting millions of other people. Not every marriage is about children, some marriages are actually about love and companionship.
Mostly, how does it hurt society on a whole if gays and lesbians are allowed to marry? The argument that this will result in a lower birthrate is laughable, people will have kids regardless of being married.
I would love to see somebody, anybody, who says "Marriage is for heterosexual couples only, because it's about raising children" speak up loudly against allowing marriage in older couples, or marriage in infertile couples. That person would have a whole lot more credibility than these ones who use it as an excuse to protest against allowing homosexuals to wed.
So before you catch your self uttering such total nonsense, ask yourself, what is the real reason you are against gays and lesbians being wed?
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结婚警戒：男女同志看过来
一小部分人，尤其是一些宗教人士，他们有什么理由自认为有权去管谁可以结婚而谁又不可以？两类经常成为不被允许结婚言论靶子的人是男女同性恋者。至于他们为什么不准结婚，其中一个经常被提到的原因就是“婚姻意味着生育和抚养孩子”。我觉得该观点特别地百分百地荒唐可笑。
该观点被滥用至此，我怀疑这些人是否真正考虑过他们所说的或者所建议的话。
按他们说的，那些不育的人就不能结婚了？
那些不打算要孩子的就不该结婚啦？
他们会禁止那些已经过了育儿年龄的人结婚吗？
结了婚就意味着你适合抚养孩子了吗？
如果某人在上一次婚姻有过孩子，这又该怎么办呢？
孩子离家出走了，夫妇就该被迫离婚啦？
这意味着对同性恋者不能生育孩子或者不想要孩子的无视。
异性恋者们离婚后并且放弃了对孩子的监护权，他们获准再婚吗？
当这撮人大加反对的时候，他们屡屡拿《圣经》来说事。这就奇怪了，早在《圣经》存在之前人类就确立了婚姻这一关系形式。而且婚姻存在于各种宗教，不仅仅存在于那些言必称《圣经》的人之间。
人类已经在一夫一妻制之下生活了世世代代。在“婚礼”还没有发明之前，人们就已经举行各种仪式来庆祝夫妇的结合。早在宗教设定这样那样的规矩之前人们就已经紧密团结在一起生活了。而说得公平点，一个宗教将自身的信仰系统强加于其他不追随该宗教的人身上，这叫人怎么接受啊？
唉，我跑题了。我的真正问题是那个之所以反对同性恋者结婚是因为婚姻意味着生育和抚养孩子的观点。老实说，我觉得这不过是一个反对同性结婚的跛脚借口。我想很多人在反对的时候并未意识到他们的话语正是一种对其他无数人的侮辱。并非每个婚姻都是建立在孩子之上，有的婚姻是因为爱和友谊而建立的。
主要是如果男女同志被获准结婚的话将会如何从基本上伤害到社会？认为这样会导致低出生率的观点是十分可笑的，人们就算不结婚也可以生孩子的啊。
某人，或任何人曾嚷过“婚姻是异性恋者的特权，因为婚姻意味着要抚养孩子。”，我倒是十分乐意看到他们高声反对老年人婚姻或者不能生育的夫妇们的婚姻。那么该人的话将比这些用“婚姻—孩子”作为借口来反对同性恋者们结婚的人的话大大地来得可信。
因此在你意识到自己在说这些胡说八道的东西前扪心自问一下 ，你反对男女同性恋者们结婚的真实理由是什么！？