Parent-Child Bonding: Crucial Aspect in a Kid’s Development
By Wendi Garcia
Child experts reiterate how the right kinds of kids toys contribute to the developmental progress of your kid. This has been proved by countless studies and is accepted as a fact by almost every parent. The right kind of educational kids toys indeed play a significant role in the honing of a child’s potentials and skills which are necessary for him to grow up as a mentally and physically healthy individual.
But this is not to say that it is suffice that you bombard your kid with every educational toy there is and leave him to play with them. Do not expect that the toys will turn him into a prodigy overnight. Toys help improve your kid’s skills but they cannot do this on their own. They will not be able to do the job without your help as a parent, without your constant guidance and support.
Here are some ways on how you can ensure that you are able to maximize bonding
and learning time with your little one:
• Spend a part of your day with your child. Household chores and office work may take the top spot in your things to do. But you have to remember that among all these tasks, taking care of your kid should always be your number one priority.
It is highly recommended that before you do any tasks for the day, you should first spend quality time with your kid, teaching him while playing with him. This is very important because if you put quality time with your kid at the very end of the day, you may be too exhausted and too drained to even lift a finger, thus the purpose of quality time will be wasted.
• Always make bonding time a fun time. As a parent, it is easy for you to get into that strict disciplinarian mode when you’re teaching your kid. There’s nothing wrong with that. However, if possible try to lighten things up by not forcing learning into your kid and making him feel that playtime is a chore. The educational value of playtime is a natural process that need not be forced.
• Insert valuable lessons during playtime. As mentioned earlier, learning takes place naturally during play but of course, it would also help to make it a point to inculcate priceless lessons into your kid’s playtime especially moral values such as respect, courtesy, honesty, and many others.
• Practice utmost patience. It’s easy for kids to get bored. One minute they want to play this game, the next thing you know they’re gearing towards another. Sometimes, you can’t help but get exasperated. But you must strive hard to be patient all the time because your kid needs you to play with him and make him learn about things.
Needless to say, parental attention and guidance are indeed a crucial aspect in a kid’s development. It is up to the parents to reinforce and nurture proper learning while playing with their toys. It is your duty to oversee that their kids are in the right path of developmental progress both in terms of the physical and mental aspects.
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父母孩子间的联系：儿童发展的重要方面
儿童专家反复地说过，合适的儿童玩具是怎样对孩子的发展过程进步作出贡献的。这个已经在无数的研究中被证实了，而且已经成为几乎每对父母所接受的事实。合适的教育类儿童玩具的确在开发儿童潜能和技能方面起着重要作用，是儿童精神上和身体上健康成长所必需的。
但是，这并不是说你塞给你的孩子全部的教育玩具，让他一个人在那边玩就足够了。不要期望玩具会一夜之间将他变成神童。玩具帮助你的孩子改进技能，但是玩具本身不会发挥作用。没有你们父母的帮助，不断地指导和支持，孩子们自己是不会玩的。
这里有一些方法，是关于你怎样确保你能够跟你的孩子保持最佳联系和学习时间：
• 一天中，花一部分的时间跟你的孩子呆在一起，家务事和办公工作要暂时停一下。但是你必须记住，在这些事情中，照顾你的孩子应当总是放第一位。
• 极力推荐，在你做任何事情之前，花一部分的时间跟你的孩子呆在一起，你应该首先跟你的孩子度过品质时间，在孩子玩的时候指点他。这点是非常重要的，因为如果每次你在一天结束时跟你的孩子度过品质时间，你可能会感觉太累了，甚至不想出一点点力。因此，品质时间的打算也就浪费掉了。
• 在玩的时候要结合。作为父母，你在教孩子时，你很容易使他们进入严谨的训练。这没有什么不好。然而，如果可能的话，设法使事情变的轻松，不要强迫孩子学会，要使他们觉得娱乐时间就象家务事一样。娱乐时间的教育价值是一个很自然的过程，不需要强迫。
• 在孩子玩的时候，加入一些有价值的课程。就象刚刚所提到的，在玩的时候教育自然而然地产生了。但是，当然这也能使你对孩子玩时达到谆谆劝导的目的，特别是道德观，例如：尊敬，谦恭，诚实等等。
• 发挥最大的耐心。孩子是很容易感到无趣的。前一分钟他想要玩这个游戏，但是你知道下一分钟他们又会转向别的游戏。有时你也没办法，只能生气。但是你必须始终尽量表现得有耐心，因为你的孩子需要你跟他一起玩，教他学会一些东西。
不必说，父母的关注和指导的确对孩子的发展起重要作用。也就是说，父母跟孩子一起玩玩具时，应该加强和教育孩子学一些适当的知识。你的责任是检查你的孩子在他们发展过程中精神和身体方面是否朝着正确的方向。