1、你怎么这么笨的啦！比较极端的词，比如说“笨、戆、傻”之类。
理由：伤人自尊心的话别以为小孩子不在意，说多了不笨也变笨了，要不就会恨那个说的人。
2、不准看电视!理由：电视不是万恶之源。关键在于看的内容、方式和时间安排。一刀切只能说明父母水平问题。
3、考这么差丢我的面子！
理由：没有一个学生希望自己考得糟糕，分数低了孩子已经难受了，父母还总是想着让孩子为自己的面子读书不是很惹人讨厌吗？
4、谁给你打电话呢？
理由：给孩子基本的隐私，不要像狗仔队一样事事过问窥探。孩子会感激你的信任，这是两代人沟通的良好前提。
5、寒假作业快点做掉。
理由：假期就是用来放松的，只是如今的应试教育让这一自然规律变得不太正常，寒假作业和所有的学习内容一样，需要循序渐进才能真正吃透，不要逼孩子一口吃成一个胖子。
6、不许出去疯玩。
理由：出去不一定是疯玩，如果可以的话，家长不妨带孩子出门旅行，让孩子有机会和你一起“疯玩”。
7、成绩怎么那么差的啦，你看人家某某某。你这种成绩还不抓紧学习，你看人家某某都前三了还那么用功。
理由：如果孩子三天两头说“你怎么赚钱那么少的啦，你看人家某某爸爸，开宝马来接孩子”，你是不是很有压力或者很郁闷？如果妻子时不时暗示“人家某某老公多浪漫，经常送花给老婆”，你会不会回敬“那你嫁给人家老公算了”。孩子和你们一样，不希望总是被拿来和别人比较，所以这种督促的方法只会让孩子觉得你不爱他(她)，而爱别人的孩子，停止吧。
译文:
Kids Dislike Seven Words from Parents
1. How can you be so stupid! Be careful about those extreme words like stupid, foolish, and silly.
Reason: Don't get the idea that children won't mind the words woulding their pride. They are apt to lose their confidence and to hate the one scolding.
2. You can't watch TV!
Reason: TV is not the root of all evils. The point lies in the content, the manner as well as the schedule. A good parent never implement "one size fits all" approaches.
3. I really feel humiliated at your poor scores!
Reason: No kids like poor scores and they must feel sad about that. It's really obnoxious for parents to have their kids sudy for their own faces.
4. Who is calling there?
Reason: Respect children's basic privacy. Don't step up your children like paparazzis. Your trust will win your kids' appreciation, which can gurantee good communication.
5. Hurry up your winter holiday tasks.
Reason: Holiday is set aside for recreation. Unfortunately, the examination-oriented education has distorted the common sense. You cannot get fat on one mouthful. So, let your kids handle the holiday tasks step by step.
6. Don't go off skylarking.
Reson: Going out need not mean skylarking. If possible, it is a good idea for you to take kids to go out for a trip, providing a chance to "go off skylarking" together.
7. How come you did so bad in the exam? Look at Jack. He is among the first three but still studies hard. Don't you get down to your studies with so poor marks?
Reason: Imagine your child says,"how come you earn so little? Look at Jack's daddy. He picks Jack up with a BMW". Isn't it possible you may get depressed and feel stressed? If your wife hints to you now and then,"her spouse is so romantic! He often brings her flowers", is it possible you reply with "okay, go and marry him"? Like adults, kids don't like to be compared with others. Comparing can only make kids feel you don't love him(her). So, stop comparing.