Karen’s hosting a “List of 50….” carnival, so I thought I’d throw us in with a list of 50 encouraging words, phrases, or activities. Words, phrases, or activities that you can share with your spouse or those you love. Pick and choose, but encourage someone today. Give them a little nudge of support, a lift of hope, a speck of joy. It’s amazing what just a little thing can do.
1. I love you.
2. We’re on the same team.
3. It’s not the end of the world. (Most problems, no matter how awful they seem, truly aren’t the end of the world.)
4. I chose you.
5. You’re my favorite.
6. I’ll pray for you.
7. I’ll support you.
8. Have a good day.
9. Thanks for being mine.
10. I want to grow old with you.
11. I’ll always be here.
12. You’re my best friend.
13. I respect you.
14. I respect your decision.
15. I hope all good things for you.
16. I want to be yours forever.
17. I want to see you at your best.
18. Thanks for loving me.
19. You look handsome.
20. You look beautful.
21. I love the way you play guitar (or another skill/talent of theirs that you appreciate.)
22. Thank you for being part of my life.
23. I appreciate hearing your view of things.
24. I’d love for you to teach me to (something that they’re good at that you might be interested in.)
25. Let me do (some task that they usually do) for you today.
26. (If your spouse works for a paycheck) Thanks for what you do to provide for our family.
27. (If your spouse takes care of most of the home tasks) Thanks for what you do to make our house a home.
28. (If you’re parents) Thanks for the ways you love and teach the kids.
29. (If your spouse has made a significant health change for the better) Thanks for taking care of your body, and for the example you set for the kids and me.
30. Sending a non-task e-mail during the day just to say, “I love you.”
31. Let your spouse know that you’re thinking of them while you’re apart.
32. I still choose you, everday.
33. How can I help you today?
34. Making a “favorite” or “birthday” dinner out-of-the-blue.
35. Plan a surprise date (including childcare!) for no reason in particular, then make them feel like it’s a special occasion.
36. Treat them out-of-the-blue with flowers, a magazine, coffee, a game or something that really shows them that it was just for them.
37. Grab their hands or snuggle in for a night on the couch instead feeling the need to be doing something “productive” with your time. Nurturing your relationship is productive!!!
38. Rub their feet or back or whatever, even if you’re tired, if you know it will make them feel special.
39. Give them a bit of undivided attention when they’re rambling about their day.
40. Get up with the kids on the weekend and let them sleep in a little.
41. Bring home their favorite movie from the video store (or grab it off the shelf), and endure enjoy it with them for the 100th time. :D
42. Write up a list of 10 things that you really love about them, and just surprise them with it.
43. Read their favorite book with them, if you haven’t before, and be willing to talk about it with them.
44. Tell them how much you love being married to them.
45. Write a list of the things that you know that they take care of in your family, and tell them how much you appreciate that they do.
46. Make them and your relationship with them the top priority, even when it’s hard.
47. Try to understand their side of an argument.
48. Get out in the cold and fill up the gas tank so they don’t have to.
49. Other things that I’m not gonna mention, but you can probably figure out for yourself. :)
50. Be the best friend they’ve ever had.
译文:
50个鼓励点[关于婚姻]
Karen正在主持一个“有50条…”的狂欢会，因此我认为我的50条激励性的字、词或行动已经让我们加入了这个狂欢。你可以跟你的配偶或者你所爱的人来共同分享这些字词和行动。挑选一下你喜欢的，今天就去实践鼓励他人吧。给他们一点支持，一丝希望，一份欢乐。你会感到这仅仅的一丁点儿事情竟会有如此令人吃惊的效果。
2. 我们同甘共苦。
3. 这不是世界末日（大多数问题，不管看上去有多么恐怖，都不是世界末日）
4. 我选择你。
5. 你是我的最爱。
6. 让我来付钱。
7. 我会支持你的。
8. 玩得开心！
9. 感谢上帝把你赐予了我。
10. 我要和你一起变老。
11. 我永远都在你身边。
12. 你是我最好的朋友。
13. 我尊重你。
14. 我尊重你的决定。
15. 希望所有的美好都围绕着你。
16. 我希望永远属于你。
17. 我想看到你最好的状态。
18. 谢谢你的爱。
19. 你好帅哦。
20. 你看起来好美。
21. 我喜欢看你弹吉他的样子（或者其他尼欣赏的特长/天赋）
22. 感谢我生活中有了你的存在。
23. 我欣赏你对事物的见解。
24. 我喜欢你教我学…（他们擅长的另你感兴趣的事）
25. 今天让我帮你做…(经常由他们做的事情)
26. （如果你的爱人为了挣钱而工作）谢谢你为这个家所付出的一切。
27. （如果你的爱人做大部分的家务）谢谢你所做的一切让我们的家有了家的温馨。
28. （如果你身为父母）谢谢你疼爱教育孩子的方式。
29. （如果你的爱人身体壮况有了巨大好转）谢谢你照顾好了自己的身体，谢谢你为我和孩子树立了榜样。
30. 发一封不附加任何任务的电子邮件仅仅为了说“我爱你”。
31. 让你的爱人知道即使你不在他们身边的时候也仍然想着她们。
32. 不论会有多少次，我仍然选择你。
33. 今天我能帮你做些什么？
34. 做一顿他最爱的或者生日晚餐给他一个惊喜。
35. 不需要任何特殊原因，计划一个惊喜的日子（包括孩子），让他们感觉这是个特别的时刻。
36. 出其不意的给他们准备一束鲜花，一份杂志，一杯咖啡，一个游戏或其他让他们觉得是特地为他们准备的东西。
37. 握住他们的手，或在某一个晚上停止手头的“生产性”工作，与家人在沙发上依偎在一起。培养你们的关系才是生产性的工作！
38．如果你知道抚摸他们的脚和背或者无论哪个地方会让他们觉得特别，那么即使累了也不要停止。
39.当他们一整天无所事事时给与他们多一点关注。
40周末与孩子一起起床，让他们多睡一会儿。
41.从音像店买回（或从货物架上抢购回）他们最喜爱的电影，一遍一遍地与他们一起观看欣赏。
42.写下你爱他们的10件事情，给他们一个惊喜。
43.和他们一起读他们最爱的书，如果之前你没有读过，要乐意与他们讨论。
44. 告诉他你有多喜欢嫁给他。
45．把你知道他们有在关心的家庭琐事罗列出来，告诉他们你有多欣赏他们的做法。
46. 即使在很难做到的时候，也要确保他们以及你跟他们的感情是放在第一位的。
47. 尽力理解他们在争论中的立场。
48. 在冷天出门加满油，以省去他们跑一趟的麻烦。
49. 其他的事情我不提了，你可能会自己想到。
50. 成为他们所拥有的最好的朋友。